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Lonliness & Despair

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by The_Meister, Oct 11, 2018.

  1. Oct 11, 2018 #1
    The_Meister

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    Not sure if anyone can relate to this.

    When I do NoFap I start to feel great, really great. But then I have my time off, which is 4 days. Im currently paying off debts (no-one to blame but myself), which over the next few months are going to decrease by a good chunk. Once that happens I can start to piece back together my social life and start in the gym again (not in that order).

    But until then, I seem to get massive feelings of lonliness and feelings of despair & unworthiness. I know so much now, noFap, Meditation, I can at times be super happy to a level which I only used to reach by spending money (hence the debts). But looking back I feel stupid for living my life the way I did when I was younger. And I am 36, so at times I start thinking its too late, this is when I normally relapse.

    I know intellectually it is not too late, but my emotions can get the worst of me. Sure meditation helps, but yeah sometimes it goes to shit.

    So is this normal and does anyone have tips to overcome this. This seems to have grown worst lately as well, even though I know that in 3 or 4 months I am going to have more than double disposable income.
     
    The_Meister, Oct 11, 2018
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  2. Oct 12, 2018 #2
    Mudkip2214

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    I am in a similar position, but one thing that helps is just telling someone. Keeping all this bottled up will just make you dwell on it. I'm not talking about the porn addiction (but that helps too) I'm talking about the loneliness and despair. The only way for thoughts to leave your mind is to speak them. Either do that or find a way, anyway to distract yourself with something yo enjoy doing.
    Good luck on your journey.
     
    Mudkip2214, Oct 12, 2018
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  3. Oct 12, 2018 #3
    The_Meister

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    I think thats why I made this post. Get it off my chest anonymously.
     
    The_Meister, Oct 12, 2018
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  4. Oct 12, 2018 #4
    Mudkip2214

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    That makes sense, just remember that it will get better/won't last forever and if you need anyone to talk to you can PM me or just make more posts on the forum.
    I believe that it will get better for you.
     
    Mudkip2214, Oct 12, 2018
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  5. Oct 12, 2018 #5
    Iceberg

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    Its never too late. You could be 40 or 50 and look back and be living the life you want, happy and contempt saying that the struggle was worth it.

    It just takes persistence and it will hurt but eventually you will get there.
    Don't ever loose hope. Try start a hobby with people either new or people you already know. See them once or twice a week.
    Alternatively, you could try get support from your local community for relationship advise. However, that only really works once you have a grip of your own life to a decent level.

    Stay Strong.
     
    Iceberg, Oct 12, 2018
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  6. Oct 12, 2018 #6
    The_Meister

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    Well once I have got my finances a bit more sorted (next few months) I will be starting the gym again and going to the self improvement meetup I am a member of. I know that will be a step in the right direction.
     
    The_Meister, Oct 12, 2018
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