Hello, anyone who is a porn as well as sex addict who might be able to offer me advice and guidance through this journey please inbox me. It seems as though talking direct with the SO sometimes is too hard, we usually end up with his shame keeping him from being honest. And with the constant lies that had been told, I don't know if I can even believe him, yet. I'm hoping to eventually get there through counseling. If anyone here who's recovering from both and think you can offer some guidance and education on sex addiction, I don't think books articles can come close to the experiences of an actual addicted person, I would appreciate your help. Thank you.
Two things I've learned through a failure to make progress: Neither of you can give up. Don't give up. Don't cut each other off. If your counsellor is not helping, and I mean if you don't feel "yes, this is definitely good and helping us to get better and make progress" then change counsellors right away. You don't need a reason to leave a counsellor, you need a reason to stay with a counsellor.
Caveat - I speak only from what I've learned from failure, not from experiencing success. Not that I don't believe in my advice, just want you to know for sure where it's coming from so you can assess its value for yourself.
