Losing hope in love

Hi,

So this may come of a bit weird since I have talked about MGTOW in an other post.
(For those who wonder what MGTOW is: It is where where live by the "rule" of
"Men going their own way". This means that you live a life where you don't want to get into a relationship to become the best version of yourself and reach ever goal you have).

I like a lot of the idea behind it, but not all of it. I guess one of the reasons why I like the idea, is that I ofcours want to improve myself every day. But at the same time, I feel like it is "forced". I don't want to live alone forever.

Even tho, have you guys ever lost hope on finding love? I have in many way been a "oneitis" a long time in my life, but I have tried to change the view that there are many perfect fits for one person. Still I kind of find myself losing a bit hope on finding love every day.

I have always been a hard working person, a person who likes to be social, have friends of opposit sex, etc. Still I can't find love. I have often told me that I should maybe try to lower my standards, but would I really be happy then? What if my standards are actually just fine?

May be the flatline days going on with me, but would still love some advice!
I have currently been very happy lately (except for the flatline stuff) - But would love to share my life with someone.
Any advice on getting a bit of hopes up again?

 

Thanks for all replys!

I guess this quote really explains it all very well "Love is the most beautiful thing to have, hardest thing to earn and the most painful thing to lose".

I know my family and friends love me and I love them (but in this case I talk about having a partner). Regarding having a partner I know it is the most beautiful thing to have and it requiers work to get there (a lot more then I still know and what I thougth in my first relationship. But damn, it really was the most painful thing to lose in my entire life!

I will try not to give up, I won't change my values or standards - I will just try be more patient. I know if I change my standards or values I would not really be happy with the relationship. I have already met girl with the same values and standards as me, so there should be more girls like that, I just have to wait and try get a more out there.

Currently I will try focus on myself to keep my mind a bit more busy, and hopefully I will find a lovely girl while doing so :,)

 

I just wanted to add a short post.

I started thinking to myself how my life currently is and how it would be if I had a girlfriend. I started to look at how busy my life currently is already, I don't actually think that I would have time to have a good relationship with a partner now. Maybe in six months I will most likely have the time. But the next 2-3 months I won't have the time. Some days I don't even have the time to do my favorite activities. I have not been able to party at all the last month, which is something I would enjoy to do once or twice each month.

But my life have been to busy. So I have started asking myself why the fuck would I want and why the hell have I been crying so much about finding love the last days? I don't even have time for it, so why do I even want it? So I will stop looking for it the next months until I have a bit more time on my hand. But if there by any chance comes a girl into my life who I think can be a good fit, I will have to make it clear to her - how busy I am the next few months. Or it won't work.

Makes it a lot easier for me to move on from the idea of having a girlfriend now. Again thansk for all support! Will keep improving myself till the day I find a person that can be a good fit for me!