Masturbating w/o porn to flesh light

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by dirtymoneymike, Mar 15, 2017.

  1. J247

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    MO are two of the three things not to do during a reboot. What made you think this was a good idea? lol
     
  2. Sovereign Soul

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    Have you considered going on a date? I made this habit of asking girls out on dates (using fb, tinder etc) when urges are too strong. I figure if I have all this sexual energy built up and have nowhere else to put it, I might as well put where it belongs before I lose my mind.
    A flashlight in my opinion is just a substitute for your hand, and while in the act you'll be just fantasizing. This might hinder the recovery process because you'll still associating O with self stimulation and fantasy, instead of it being the epitome of attraction and chemistry with another person.
     
  3. alphamale2003

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    I have a fleshlight but haven''t used it during my reboot
     
  4. staub

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    I could not have put it better.
    I actually believe that it is harder if you focus on the whole time (90 days) and count every day instead of just going in steps like a week and not really worrying about the number of days.
    When I started my 90 days the counter was broken, so I wrote the date I would be finished in my signature and never bothered with it again.
    I did a journal with regular updates.
    At first I wanted to do daily but it was mostly every sunday unless something noteworthy came up and then every time (even every sunday) I had to rtecount how at many days I was.
    Personally, a big step for me was blocking me from all porn. For me that meant deleting my collection (all of it, no exception). I never was the online stream kinda porn guy.
    So if you collect images, delete them. It's a lot like smoking and as long as there are some in your house, you'll eventually succumb to the urge.
    If you browse online, use a blocking software to keep you from it.

    Otherwise, like covert said, I also started with "just" 30 days and when I got there, another 30 was actually way too easy. 60 - 90 was a struggle again at some point but that was my own fault. :p
    Keep up and stay strong.
     

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