Came across this forum and concept today and am thinking it's exactly what I need. I am unhappy in life. There is no real need for me to be unhappy. I have been thinking a lot about what is making me so unhappy, and have come to the conclusion that it's mainly one thing, and that is my addiction to porn / sex. For as long as I can remember I have been watching porn, and over the last 5 years or so, compulsively and excessively. It has led me to being unhappy with standard or vanilla sex, me being unable to be happy with a partner (and wanting to move onto another), promiscuity and it's associated loneliness and deep anxiety / depression. It's getting worse and not better. I have not been in a serious relationship for 6 years but have recently met up with an old girlfriend and we have been seeing each other for 5 months now. The last couple of months I have become increasingly anxious and despairing as the sexual excitement that comes from promiscuity is not there. I am still addicted to porn and I'm sure that my addiction to porn and masturbation fuels this. I am desperate to change the way I feel about things and decided that I need to try to stop porn completely (and masturbation about ex partners etc.). I'm hoping that this is the answer for me. I really need to change the way I think and feel. I'm pretty desperate. I have started the change today. Day 1. I really need to try to do this. Any help / advice / encouragement really appreciated.
Welcome Colin, I'm very glad you are here. For a start, see my "What's working" below. And I think you'll find a lot of wisdom here, just look around. You are among friends!
Thanks. I'm hoping this forum will help me. It's something that is so hard to talk about to friends. It seems I'm not alone with this problem. It really does control a lot of my thoughts and behaviours. I need to take control of it, rather than it me (if that makes sense).
Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you. The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?
I havn't really got as far as developing a strategy. I just know that I need to stop. Years of doing the same thing and following the same patterns of behaviour have got me precisely nowhere. Well, that's not entirely true. It's got me anxious, unhappy and feeling like there is no way out. It was a kind of light bulb moment suddenly recognising that the majority of my unhappiness is rooted in my addiction to PMO (Picking up the lingo). It warps reality, and makes PMO and promiscuity the most important thing in the world. Where it really isn't. I'm sure that I'm going to need to develop a 'strategy', but for now I'm revelling in the fact is that I have worked out where I have been going wrong in life. I think that truly identifying the issue is half way to solving it. At least I know what I need to do. Thanks for your support guys. It's great to know I'm not the only one with this kind of issue.
