Pretty simple question. I am now 26 days without PMO. Thoughts of it are sometimes there but I fight them off. Seems about once a week I get nice urges and MO to thoughts of my SO. Is that normal? Is anyone else going through this?
I used to do it but I've since stopped. Some will say it's fine others won't. For me I saw it is being contrary to the appreciation I'm trying to foster for real life experiences. In reality sometimes my SO wants to have sex and then there are times she is sick, tired, or not in the mood. All of these things are a part of real life, but when I fantasize about her those things aren't there so when I MO to that I'm becoming attached to an incomplete and distorted version of her.
The reboot will be most efficient and likely to result in success if, during the hard 90, you avoid all artificial sexual stimulation. This would include MO while thinking of anything or anyone, including your SO. You are not addicted to porn, you are addicted to the dopamine rush watching it resulta in (because sexual thoughts produce a dopamine rush); so, during the reboot you are trying to avoid a dopamine rush at all, completely, but, if it is inevitable, it has to be with actual sex, with another person, in the same room, with a pulse, touching you, and vice versa.
I am doing PM so are you saying that having real sex with a real woman in the first 90 days is ok with the dopamine rush ?
Thank you all for your input. I think real sex with SO is better as I kind of thought but we are not quite there yet. I will try to fight urges and not MO even to thoughts of her. It is going to be a challenge this coming weekend as she is away for 4 days and I am on my own!
@Keys Are you saying you only do PM and not PMO? And yes it is okay to have real sex with a woman. To the OP when you just MO you can have two things happen if you do it too much besides the dopamine thing. First if you use a really tight grip, which most do, you get to a point where the vagina can not be as tight as you make your hand. Some call it the "deathgrip" you may develop delayed ejaculation because of it. The other thing that can happen is you get so used to your hand that your brain identifies that you only orgasm with your hand. You need to be careful about MO. There are more things that can happen but those are just two things that can happen.
Ok, i thought you meant you are watching porn and masturbating but not going to orgasm. SO means significant other, so gf or wife.
