Watching sex is pretty much all I have. I can count on one hand the times I had sex with a woman and that is fast approaching ten years ago. Real sex? More or less I have no idea what that is.
I was 31 before I had sex. It wasn't anything special. Barely knew the lady at all. Through that experience I learned to take it slow. When I get married this summer my fiancee and I will have been together for two years. No sex.
This is an effect of long term porn usage, it makes you more comfortable simply watching two other people have sex it because you get to a point where you aren't even physically capable of having sex anyways due to the inevitable PIED issues porn causes.
Remember having sex when you hadnt been taken over by porn. The build up of sexual tension between you and a girl and being able to get erect easily . And how good it felt I always liked having sex was always horny as hell made girls cum quickly I'll be honest though it's been years . I also diagnosed with depression about 10 years ago . And the ssris they gave me pretty much made me impotent . No morning wood couldn't get an erection couldn't even feel urination it was that bad. Life's a journey and it's been a hell of long one for me. I had a good youth I lost my virginity at 15 had sex with women in there 30s and 40s when I was 16. I got with a women In her early 40s when I was 17 and she was prepared to take my phone number . She was divorced had a son who was 2 years younger than I was. I've always enjoyed that. But yeah it's been about 8 years 5 of which I was clinically impotent from an SSRI . That's long enough to fuck anyone up The days when there was no online forums talking like this . Just mates in your social group . The internet has changed how we communicate people talk a fucking lot online . We overshare big time online I think that is alot of the problem is spending our lives online we stop seeing ourselves . What do you think that's like when you watch porn . You don't exist only the stimulation. I think we've been doing this shit for far too long. The porn addiction. You should probably be in a relationship by now married kids something better than wanking your days away
watching porn is using people for sexual gratification except it's passive. Actually seeing someone is seeing a real person even if you pay them. I don't see how paying them automatically makes it wrong. Yes in a sense you "are using her" she is providing a type of service like a restaurant would. I just don't see it as wrong in my religion we have etemporary marriage of course there are limitations like the girl having two month waiting periods between marriages but in Iran for example you can pay to marry a girl temporarily and have intercourse it's called sighe over there look it up. So given my religious and cultural background "I don't see it as a cold hearted using people" and I don't see it as wrong. Porn is watching people and using them for gratification and all the problems with trafficking and abuse can and has happened in there. In my opinion porn is worse then seeing thr sex worker. Of course I don't endorse prostitution as it's fornication and a sin. And the sighe thing in Iran is still temporary marriage not fornication.
So u buy a woman for 2 months and its not a sin all of the sudden. But if u buy her for 1 night, oh the prophet would be so angry. Religion is trully insane. Ofc.. its a man made construct.
Religion can be a great guide. Some interpretations of it can be quite silly. No way can I see "shotgun" marriages being a good thing in the long term. Neither do I see sex outside of marriage being a good thing. Having been lost in pornography I can see why sex left until marriage can be a good thing. The reason I went into porn is because I didn't want to take the time to learn about any woman I'd be with. It was all about me. Taking a year or two to get to know your partner helps prevent sex being the foundation of the relationship.
You misunderstand. Either time is fine 1 night or 2 months. Its just that once she has sex with that guy she has to wait two months before she can do another temporary marriage with a different guy. In other words she can't quickly hop from one guy to the next she has gotta wait between them basically. As for it being insane I don't agree with you on that. I actually feel islam makes sense and is a divine religion (not man made). I also feel you are being judgemental. I find it's better then some other religions that doesn't even give you the option to be a temporary husband or wife. This is my opinion you're free to think how you like. I do think that prostitution can be problematic though especially in places where its not legal and a person like me would prefer to have a temporary marriage with a girl who isn't a sex worker. But I was simply responding to the comments of others.
