More than 30 days, I understand nofap importance!

Hi guys this is max,
I reached again more than 30 days no PMO streak. I had a streak of almost 70 days in March, so it is the first time I get again 30. Is it important? Yes and not, this is what I have learnt as I posted in another thread:

• t was important do not use PMO when I feel bad. I had to undertand life is not shit only for me, life is difficult for everyone, so why PMO when I am sad, when i am bored, when i am tired ecc. But also when I was happy I PMO. So I understood another thing: listen to my emotions. I use PMO to cover my emotions, to empty my self from emotions bombarding my brain with those things. Lately I am listening to my emotions, I write every thing I feel, and I accept what I am feeling.
  
• Second point, it was important not focus on closing PMO. When I had a streak , even if a long one, I was continuosly thinking PMO, I was obsessed by it, how to close it, why I fell down so easily. I understand it is not important to think how to close with PMO, but to focus on life, how to realize my dreams, the will to live must be stronger than the will to PMO, stronger than urges. So I started to cultivate again my passions: reading, cinema, go to gym to have a beautiful body, meditate, karate. These little things can fill my life, I know belong to me and make me what I am really. I asked to myself what I wish really, I want t obecome a scientist and so I got back to study as i am able.
  
• third point, it was important to learn to get up after a relapse. I had to understand after a relapse, not everything is lost. I thought in this way, so when I fell down, I said "ok I fell, so I can fall again and again" ecc. No rebooting is not LINEAR! A relapse after 70 days (I had this one) doesn't mean everything is ended, everything is lost. The improvements in my life decided at that time are not lost, I still see in my life and so i was astonished because at this point I had understood nothing about this addiction. So after a relapse, I don't care if I am at day 108, I care if the day after I can stand up again on the path I decided for my life. So I don't fear the urges, I don't fear a relapse. One could think in this way is easy to relapse again. I can say it is not so for me, now I PMO very much less frequently.
  
• fourth point, maybe i think the most important, it is connection. The opposite of a dependence is connection. Connection with the other people, connction with friends, the same family. How much i neglected family, friends. I felt as a strange person who spends his days PMOing. No I said. I started to call my friends, to talk with others, exploiting every opportunity to be with the others. For me PMO means loneliness, because when I PMO, I can talk with no one, I am closed in my room alone, as if those things could satisfy me, could be enough to me. No I need relations, I need to talk with others, express my feelings.

As a conclusion I can say nofap has its importance to heal my brain but in parallel I need to start living, win the feeling of paralysis

 

@Tonytone @5adn8m8 @Jojo man @Harry Maclad , guys thankyou so much for your support

 

thankyou friend to read my thoughts

 

Thankyou, friend to tell me your opinion sincerely. Maybe I expressed wrong, I try to be clearer. My goal is to close forever pmo, that is clear else I would not be here to write. I don't think I spoke lightly about PMO. I just said I don't want to focus on closing that, I focus on how live life I wish. tomorrow I could be all the day to think how not PMO, making up all the best strategy, but trust me in little time I could relapse easily. Conversely, tomorrow I can decide to improve my life, wake up early, starting study early in the morinig, doing push up, meditation, call friends, going out for a walk, reading, filling my life and realizing that how I want. So I don't fell anymore paralized.
I think it is not important to focus on close PMO forever but to engage to live the life. On the contrary, life would turn around PMO, even if i want to close it, it would be always near me. Too many times I concentrated about the best strategy to close PMO, nothing worked else it worked to engage in the life i want, but really i say that , it is not a speculation, I spent life with no social relation, closed in my room to PMO, alone, no friends, and everyday I thought about "what am i doing wrong?" , "Why i carry on to PMO ?". I made all the perfect strategy, but when i had a streak i was feared by urges, possible relapses, and the day after could be the last one and then everything was going to start from the beginning. So one day I decided to change, I asked myself what I wanted, I said i wanted friends and the day after i called some friends. I wanted to do karate and the day after i went to subscribe to karate. I wanted to read more and I took a book and starting reading. and so on. So i defend strongly my idea , do not focus about PMO but about the life you want. In this way, in the third point I to highlight the fact everything is not lost after a relapse. That I saw in my life. The improvements I talked about are not lost after a relapse, by this way i said the reboot is not linear. If you see in that point I am talking about counting no PMO days. You are right to comndamn a lightly way to talk about pmo , if you see i say it is important to get up after a relapse and not focusing on about the streak. after a relapse i can say not everything is lost. In fact I still have friends, i still do karate, i still read books ecc. The improvements in my life i have not lost when i had a streak of 70 days. in that period i decided to improve my life and even if i relapsed i am carrying on the life i decided. So i conclude you could think in this way of thinking it is easier to relapse conversely i can say i pmo less frequently, but i am not saying my goal is to fap less frequently. that phrase you have extrapolated from the context has a precise meaning . Anyway, you can consult this very interesting page: https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/top-3-fatal-mistakes-rebooters-make where I am inspired in the last months and was very useful to me.
I thank you to report me your perceptions and friendly i invite you to report this post to moderators for a control. Indeed if you think it is discouraging for new fapstronauts you have a very great responsibility to report it immediately! If it is dangerous for new fapstronauts i will remove it without rancor. Because i know what means to suffer for this addiction and I don't want to transmit wrong ideas to new fapstronauts. So If there is something wrong I hope you (including the moderators) explain me very precisely to understand how to improve myself and to avoid possible problems to new fapstronauts. Sitll thanks, i think it is very important to share our experiences. Cheers friend

 

of course i take it seriously, i suffered for this addiction too much and now i can say i am facing it. that is my message which is not general but particular because it regards just my experience. anyway still thanks to be sincere with me. I hope i was clearer

 

thankyou for the support. the important I think is to rember this journey is not linear but possible. I say you can do it , not as a circumstance phrase but I lived it and I can witness it is possible. As a summary of the thread: listent to your emotions and accept them, focus about the life you want and build it, connect to other people (family, friends, new friends ecc)

 

thankyou friend