My first win against PIED

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by TONYP, Aug 26, 2019.

  1. TONYP

    TONYP Fapstronaut

    A little background, I’m gay and have mostly taken the submissive position because of my PIED.

    At Day 40, I had a date. The date was mediocre, but we had been talking about having sex for a while. After dinner we went to his place, started with foreplay, and was able to perform!!!

    I notice I kept my erection longer. Though it would go down, I could get it back quickly.

    It was amazing.
     
    Last edited: Aug 27, 2019
  2. ironmaing

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    Congratulations!! Must've felt great!

    I'm still suffering from PIED...I really hope I'm not a long rebooter, my relationship won't last that long :(

    Do you have any tips to recover from PIED?
     
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  3. TONYP

    TONYP Fapstronaut


    I wouldn't say my PIED is 100% healed, and I don't have any tips or tricks, but I did notice a few things from this experience:

    First, due to my extended break from PMO, I was very aroused and craved physical connection. In the past, I would sometimes be elsewhere in my head or just not that into because I was already using P.

    Second, I didn't maintain a full erection the entire time. In fact I would lose it and get it back. And I would get it back by doing things that aroused me which aroused my partner which aroused me even more.

    Third, and this was the most important observation I noticed, I didn't think too much. Sometimes I'd get so obsessed with thoughts about staying hard that of course I wasn't in the moment, and I'd go limp. This time I was in the moment, and not in my head. I stayed relaxed and confident, and when it was time to perform, I was able to, and it was amazing.

    I think a big problem is that struggling with PIED creates performance anxiety, and sometimes we don't know where one ends and the other begins. If you feel confident you won't relapse, I suggest you do the Simple PIED Test in the Getting Started manual. I think that's a great way of learning if you're suffering from more than just PIED.

    Good luck in your journey!!!
     
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  4. xx9

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    I also have PIED problems and anxiety performance, and I realised that when she is masturbating me in order to have sex it works much worse that only when she is masturbating me for making me cum (without penetration).

    If you know that all the set up is only for the sex maybe its too much pressure, "it´s not hard enough", "it´s hard, but will it last enough?" " I cant cum until penetration", that kind of thoughts. So next time I will try to forget about penetration and only enjoy the moment asking her for a hand job. Maybe in a couple of times it works much better.

    I didnt do it yet, but every time I meet her I have condoms. I am sure that if one day I would go without them (and therefore we will not have sex anyway) it will be hard as a rock. I have to prove it. Penetration seems to be like a libido killer for me.
     
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  5. scjguy

    scjguy Fapstronaut

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    I'm sorry to be intrusive, but did you use a condom? If so, any complications?
     
  6. Chappo030891

    Chappo030891 Fapstronaut

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    Good story man! There's hope!!!
     
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  7. TONYP

    TONYP Fapstronaut

    Not intrusive, that's actually a good question. I did not use one, so whether I would have, or could even now, maintain with one on is uncertain at the moment.
     
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  8. ironmaing

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    I get it. I used to get horrible anxiety when there was possibility of sex. I had had so many bad experiences. To this day I still feel relieved if there is no possibility of sex. What helped me is to make visualization efforts. See link below. Very powerful to forget bad experiences:

     
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