My husband can’t have sex with me

Hi Laura,

Btw, I am 24 old guy.

I understand how to feel.
The problem your husband is facing is becoz of P addiction, which I am sure sounds obvious. Porn addiction alters the brain, in some instances people prefer mastubating to Porn more than actual sex.

His problem will be cured once he starts nofap, although I would not be able to give you the exact time frame on how long it is going to take becoz it depends on the extend of damage that has already occurred. The good thing about the brain is it keeps unwiring and rewiring based on the environment. Deeper the addiction, longer it is going to take unwire and heal.


You have to convince him to do nofap. Let me tell you that it will be very hard for him in the beginning...But it is going to get easier with time.

If you have any queries about nofap, feel free to ping me..I will try I best to answer them at the earliest.

Also, there are a lot of women in the forum who r going to support you.

Good luck and God bless you.

 

Well, I really feel for you. I did it for 10 long years. Thinking that maybe if I let him sleep longer, rest more, have more more and more quiet time, take on all house- and kids-related responsibilities, then maybe a day will come when he isn't too stressed or too tired, or too unwell. I feel stupid, frustrated and humiliated.
He is in therapy now and gosh, there are sooo many so deeply encoded issues that he has stemming from early childhood that it suddenly took us to a completely different level and we've just uncovered an enormous ice-berg. And really, the 20+ years of his PA seems now just like a tiny tip of an enormous ice-berg.
As much as I hope that your SO will just be told to "relax and enoy" I'm afraid that - as any addiction - PA is just a coping mechanism that masks much darker and more serious stuff. Good luck though.
P.S. Our sexual life improved dramatically just days after discovery, but things still aren't "perfect".