my journal

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by irnbru, Jun 21, 2018.

  1. irnbru

    irnbru Fapstronaut

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    Hello everyone! Although my username is irnbru, I am actually the least Scottish person irl. I want to quit PMO for religious and health reasons. I've tried NoFap before but I relapsed hard after only a few days. So this will be my 2nd more serious and hopefully successful attempt at NoFap. I'm still getting used to this forum so I hope you guys will bear with me.
     
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    Nadamotain Fapstronaut

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    I have found that trying to be positive and being helpful to others helps me want to stay away from porno.
     
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    irnbru Fapstronaut

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    so im not sure how to update my journal, so im going to try and reply to this thread and see if it works. Day 1 ran smoothly, little to no urges at all. But, im scared of the first few days when the cravings start. So, im going to write down an action plan of what to do when i start to crave. Wish me luck guys!
     
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    Just click on counter update. Then put in your stopped on date. If you have a stopped on date June 10 and your still good, each you put June 10. Doesn't update immediately.
     
  5. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Awesome to hear that you have decided to journal! Make sure you indeed blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain after physical injury. Plus it is generally a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body.

    You gotta make sure it is proper mindfulness meditation though. "Mindfulness" meditation where we just focus on breath is more like a concentration meditation instead. It works too but differently and not as powerfully in my experience. Real mindfulness meditation however trains you to accept your urges by understanding the nature of them by observing them, not just suppress them by concentrating on something else instead. It makes you comfortable with them. And once you accept and become comfortable with them there is no need to get rid of them, so there is no need to PMO. Only reason why we PMO is because that urge, that itch in our crotch is uncomfortable, we wanna get rid of it. And then after PMO we have our release. Or we simply want pleasure. And inability to have that pleasure makes us uncomfortable. But if we accept that we can not have pleasure then resistance is gone and there is no reason to PMO.

    Acceptance and mindfulness is the key. Check out this Ted talk on acceptance and mindfulness practice, it gives a good idea of what's it's about when it comes to philosophy. The mindfulness practice as described by psychologist in a the video can be used by itself but ideally should be used as supplementation to your daily sitting meditation. Sitting meditation I personally practice and recommend to people is as explained by meditation expert in this YouTube playlist. If you don't like the monk or want other method there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     

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