My problems in sexual behaviour

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Ripper05, Nov 9, 2019.

  1. Ripper05

    Ripper05 New Fapstronaut

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    I am committed to a girl since 3 years and now i don't feel sexually attracted towards her because now i consider the body shape more and according to me she doesn't have a good body shape. As i think more of my different behaviour i think porn is which i blame because in porn we see sexy ladies and fantasies about them and now in my life i also want the girl who have thick booty and big boobs similar to the girls in porn and this thing affects my relationship alot.
    All think about is that i can not leave the person i love because of this reason that "I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH THE GIRL WHO HAVE GREAT BODY". After all this i came to know about this platform and i started following nofap and today after 21 days of nofap i can not stop my urge of watching porn and masturbation and i am very upset about my relapse and i want to try for 90 days but i am not sure that after 90 days will this improve my sexual behaviour if there is any expert reading this please help me!!
     
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  2. NamaClature14

    NamaClature14 Fapstronaut

    So what you’re saying is very common among people here, so you’re not alone. I too can feel that way sometimes and you are correct, it’s due to the fact that porn has caused in us a grasshopper mind, we are always jumping looking craving new exciting mates. It’s partially biological, evolutionary urges to keep the species alive but the degree of severity that can be seen today is from hyper stimulation from porn.

    The best thing you can do at this moment is begin again. Don’t look at how many days, but look at moments, moments you could PMO but you choose otherwise, and just build on moments. You need more time to heal first and this idea that you need a hot body will begin to change, and so will your relationship and the way you view things.
     
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  3. Ripper05

    Ripper05 New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your support man it means alot to me.
    It was very hard for me to express my this side to anyone, but nofap is a platform where a stranger can give support and understand your feelings. Thanks again man
     
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  4. dankestmemes

    dankestmemes Fapstronaut

    There's nothing wrong with wanting to be with a woman with a great body. It's in our programming to want to impregnate fertile women who will bear many healthy children. Any trait which we find sexually attractive is an indicator of fertility and ability to bear and raise children. By learning to embrace this side of us, we can get an idea of what direction to go regarding our self improvement. Training hard, being able to provide for ourselves and others, having a clean living space, taking care of our skin, etc. Sexual attraction is the whole point of the relationship. Anyone who says otherwise is deluding themselves. The physical aspects matter. If they don't, then random pairings of couples would be fine with everyone. You should not be ashamed to want a partner who is attractive to you. If you're not, that doesn't mean all is hopeless. Maybe you two can train together and eat healthier. My wife also wants to improve herself: she does squats, hangs on the pull-up bar, and stretches. It's a win-win when your partner is fit for their sake and for yours.
     
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  5. Ripper05

    Ripper05 New Fapstronaut

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    Hey man, what i think is i am so influenced by porn that i want all the same things in my sexual life and according to me if a man can't masturbate watching the same porn daily then how can he have sex with the same woman for his whole life.
    Right now i am 20 and have friends who use tinder and do hookups alot while on the other hand i am a committed to a single girl from past 3 years and i love her, i can't leave her but also i am not sexually satisfied with her and i don't want to cheat her and have sex with other girls. So i am trying nofap only because i want to control my urges and i think that maybe by following nofap i will be able to stop breaking up my relationship.
     

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