Hi! I am in my mid twenties and I want to tell you about my struggeling with PMO. I started relatively late with this topic (thank god) since we only had very slow internet. As it changed (I were 17) I was curious about this PMO topic and started to watch it. It never satisfied me and I felt always guilty about it. So often I prayed to god that he may help me but nothing ever happend. I want to quit it since living in sin is so time-consuming and I always feel there is like a barrier between me and god. I am tired of this shit. Maybe I can find here an accountability partner or you can help me with some tips. If you want to ask questions feel free to say them.
Love God! Love His standard for our lives! When you wake up in the morning, look out the window, and never take for granted that the Lord has given you another day to repent, change your ways, and be a Light to the World!!!!
Thanks man. I think my problem is that I want to succeed on my own and often forget to ask god for help or his blessings. This post shall reminde me to pray to god and only depend on god. Today is quiet a good day. I think I will not fall now.
That is the problem for most of us, we want to do it on our own. If we rely on God's wisdom, then we have to deny ourselves, or rather deny our selfish desires. So it's a matter of resisting temptation, and also replacing old habits with new ones. And that takes time. Generally, they say the first 30 days is the hardest, because your mind keeps going back to old thought patterns. And for some of us, who have been struggling for decades it can be a long process. I'm just at a point right now, where I have to actively battle this daily, if not I will go right back into that cycle of binge-purge, binge-purge etc. And then failure and shame. As men especially, we don't want to be ashamed of our actions! Stay on track and start thinking about what you want to be when you grow up! Nobody wants to be a porn addict!!!!
Thank you for your reply. I had a very busy weekend so there was no time to think about PMO. Today morning I took the time to pray and rest in god's present. These are the thinks I usually forget to quick and then I want to do everything on my own. On sunday I told my girlfriend about my problems with PMO. It was hard to tell and I pray to god that she may forgive me. I did not wanted to hide it longer from her. I think it would be unfair. After that I felt that god is realy with me and forgives me. I think this was a long time like a wall between me and god as it was also a wall between me and my girlfriend.
I managed day 4. My girlfriend and I had a long talk and I am happy she wants to stay with me and help me to get free. She is such a loving and nice woman. I am gald to have her in my life.
That's great that your girlfriend is supporting you! Keep going and keep your focus on future goals and the things you need to do to accomplish them! Know ye not that they which run in a race run all, but one receiveth the prize? So run, that ye may obtain! 1 Cor 9:24
I managed day 5. Today I were relatively busy. In beforehand, I thought about a schedule that I can avoid some of my triggers like boredom and exhaustion. With the help of God I will succeed!
Psalm 46:10 - He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; You are doing great ! Keep at it! Remember He is with you ALWAYS!
Today morning was the first time that I felt the urge for PMO. I fled to god and prayed nearly 30 mins and after that the urge was gone. Thank god! I would also like to thank all of you for couraging me. This really helps me going on!
I somehow managed the first week. Thank god for his help! Without him I would not have accomplished it. I do not want to stop here. There is more to come and to overcome.
Keep going. Every morning, when you wake up, think about being grateful for one more day, one more opportunity to live with purpose, to honor Christ and to say something nice to someone! One day at a time, we can do this together!
Day 8: I was very busy, lot to do at work. Tomorrow I will help at a move of some friends. I fear the time that I am not busy anymore as these are the times I usually fail for PMO. I will pray that god may protect my thoughts tomorrow.
I agree, it's easier when we are staying busy, but it's even more critical that we stay faithful when we are alone. That is when we are being tested, like when Christ was being tempted in the wilderness!
I completed day 9. I kept my thought focused. It was not easy but I managed it. With the help of god I succeeded.
Day 10 is done. I had a nice sunday and a good time with my girlfriend. If I can talk with her I feel loved and have no urge for PMO. I am very thankfull for her.
Today was very busy but I managed to have a long praying session which always helps me. My focus now is to not neglect the relationship to god. If this will happen I will fail for PMO. Spending time with god shall be my constant battle.
Next day finished. Today evening I visited a cell group and we had a good discussion about the word of god and a prayer session. I am thankfull for this group and it is always encouraging to talk with them.
