Need help from you successful guys i'm addicted to porn and escorts

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  1. GA93JDeereboy

    GA93JDeereboy Fapstronaut

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    I've been off and on back and forth so much. I'd really like to get around this. Some say it is me being lonely. I'm very shy as well. I do go out and stuff but it is talking to women that is my fear. I'm in my 20s. Single still no kids or house, living at home. I have some money but really looking to overcome this issue.

    My mind isn't right. Sometimes I think it's ok to do this. But then after I cum it goes from so hot to cold. I am a little hard on myself. I am not holding true to myself or others with this addicition. Because I still am noting any girls or going out or anything.
    Just doing my thing and every here and there get this binge to see escorts and get laid. But I rarely get laid good. It sucks.
    I wish people were more caring and honest.
     
  2. You have money but you don’t have a place to of your own? So you’d rather spend money on empty affection than actually focus on your future? You’d rather focus on your future by spending your money on hookers?
    You wish people are caring and honest but you don’t even care for yourself or aren’t even honest with yourself?
    How can you improve and focus on yourself when you’re impoverishing yourself with hookers and putting your focus on other people but yourself? You sound so conflicted but you’re just making excuses and trying to cover yourself Spend your money on in a gym membership, take some lessons or try a new hobby. If you spend your money on positive things you won’t be so lonely because you’ll be busy doing stuff and maybe you could be doing stuff with other people of the same interest. But first and foremost focus on yourself
     
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  3. pcmaster

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    You can look up member called Fercho on this forum he have a lot of useful posts and been addicted to same as you. What helped him was installing porn blocker and creating emergency tool box where he write all kinds of things that helped him change mind for the better.
    Its good that you realize this is addiction.
    Recently watched interesting animation about addiction - you might find it interesting too -
     
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  4. BravelyKegger

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    I have had multiple hooker encounters here in Japan, just a week ago I had 4 come up to me, I realized than and there I don’t want sex with strangers, what I crave is intimate relations with someone to call my own, just the thought of using one of those poor unfortunate women sickens me, I would feel like trash taking advantage of someone in a very bad situation like that.
     
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  5. GA93JDeereboy

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    I don’t want to take advantage of anyone. Japan, wow what a difference then Georgia. Me, I do want intimacy, kissing cuddling etc. with escorts I don’t really get that. With hookups, I’ve only had well 2. I enjoyed it. I don’t mind hooking up with ladies, I just don’t have much confidence to flirt.
    I should. I would be able to meet more sooner or later if I would. I got to get ahead of this junk
     
  6. Tommy1235

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    As you continue your NoFap journey your confidence will increase and it will be much easier to talk to girls and anybody. Sometimes we're afraid that the girls we talk to will find out about our 'dark side' and we subconsciously fear being 'exposed'. But when you know you're clean there's nothing to be afraid of. As to your mind, it's now trying its best to lure you back to porn. Don't believe your thoughts right now. Personally, it took me about 200 days to look at porn as something disgusting. But it's possible. Have a good one and stay strong.
     
  7. BravelyKegger

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    The reason I dont talk to girls really comes down to fear of not being able to get it up, I don’t have a gf so how am I suppose to know if it works? I had that happen to me before right before sex and it humiliated me, that was the last time I attempted it.
     
  8. SirErnest

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    A nice reply with a helpful tone. Good to see.
     
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  9. Warren_Beatty

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    Man this is something that you dont just nail straight away. You are gonna get knocked on your ass so many times but the thing is it doesnt matter how many times you crack and give in to the urges, what matters is that you pick yourself, dust yourself off and go again. You keep getting back up until you have overcome this. Thats the deal. Because the alternative is that this controls you for all of your days here on Earth. And thats not an option. Its not an option because you're here on this forum and that means you want to escape the slavery. And if you truly want to be free, you will get there. Trust me, anyone who has overcome this stuff had fallen so mant times before they were successful. Me included. Im almost at the end of 1 year completely free of PMO(Hard mode). Its taken me 4 years of getting knocked down and getting back up again, to get to this point. Now its no problem at all. Im no longer drawn to sexual images or hookers or anything like that. It has zero power over me now. But that was from battling and never quitting, because deep down inside I knew it was possible to be completely free. The most important thing you need to do though is to guard the gates to your mind. Do not engage in sexual fantasies. Do not replay old porn clips in your head. Dont leer at girls. Do not think about sex at all. This is like throwing Diesel on a fire......it will just rampage and get out of control. Guard your mind and I promise it will make things a lot easier. Your sexuality will recalibrate itself and you'll find that you no longer view women as sex objects. Your relationships with women will improve because you will no longer be desperate to have sex with them. Sex will no longer be your master. You'll be sober minded and relaxed around women, and they'll sense that about you. Which paradoxically means they'll actually be more drawn to you. In the Bible it says that no sin will destroy you more than sexual immorality. It doesnt matter whether your a christian or not, I think everyone on this forum knows the truth in this. Do not be a slave to anything in life, especially sex, because if sex is your master it will destroy you in every way.
     
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  10. GA93JDeereboy

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    i wouldn't let that stop you. I would keep trying.
     
  11. BravelyKegger

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    I know but that is why I will not date until I am rebooted fully
     
  12. Tommy1235

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    I couldn't agree more. I can't even count how many times I gave in and then came back with new power to destroy this addiction. Eventually, this what makes you horny while you are addicted will seem utterly disgusting when you're over it. And seeing women as potential girlfriends or mothers instead of sex objects is one of the most beautiful benefits of NoFap.
     
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  13. GA93JDeereboy

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    It's nice to read good motivation from you guys.
     
  14. rishi123

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    how many escorts you visit,
    how many escorts you visit, its a temporary feel good feeling.....your addiction life gets normal again after some time.....Be busy, join yoga, prayers, gym, social works, studies..etc..be so busy.....interact with real women........you will overcome over your problem
     
  15. pcmaster

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    Prayers and yoga don't come together cause prayers scare away satan but yoga is from satan. So you can't eat from two tables cause then you won't get good from any. But surely God is Good and more powerful than anything on this earth. Then again satan is only fallen angel waiting for his judgement day, trying to take to hell with him as many human souls as possible before he is burning in hell forever.
     
  16. chesterkeen

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    perfect advice, bro...except for some sex crazed women, the rest of women hate to do this job selling themselves for money...aside from that intimate sex with someone you love is not even comparable to this empty and senseless sexual release...
     
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  17. GA93JDeereboy

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    Guys I’m going to figure this out here, I appreciate your input.
     

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