I'm 35 this is my first day of this program. I have not really had much reason to stop. I am married to a woman with a sex drive that is virtually non-existent. I love her, but I've always had a very high sex drive, and going from 7-10 blowjobs a week and sex anytime I wanted with as many partners as I wanted with my ex (she was very bisexual) to getting 3-4 blowjobs a year, and sex only after I whine about it for weeks I turned to porn on the internet to quench my sex drive. After 10 years of marriage I find myself realizing I am dependent on masturbation at inopportune times, and although she has cheated on me 3 times in the period of one week last year, she still has less than no sex drive. She has 100 reasons why, some are medical, most are just her not wanting to. I desperately need advice for how to reconnect with my wife. I can not ejaculate from sex with her, it usually turns into me jacking off in her presence usually without porn. My doctor has diagnosed me with Low T, but due to the cost of medicine I haven't filled the prescription for androgel. Wondering if this will help. The most I've gone without masturbating in recent times was probably 5 days and that was to see if I could ejaculate from sex. I was unable to. Does nofap mean I can't have sex/blowjobs either? If I can, how does this affect the process? Will nofap cure that condition? What is PMO? I see that term on here a lot, is there a lexicon for all of the abbreviations on here? Happy to be here, glad I found others with a similar issue as mine.
Hi, thanks for posting. I'm a thirty year old guy rebooting his life with nofap, and though I've been going for a week and then relapsing for several weeks now, since joining this site and community I have a lot more faith I'd be able to go 90 days. I humbly offer my thoughts - take what you find speaks to you and leave what doesn't. I'd highly recommend a reboot of 30 - 90 days of no masturbation before going the medication route. I've found the periods I go without fapping have helped with challenges ejaculating and getting it up. I'm no expert, but from what I'm hearing from you I'd actually recommend going without sex for this reboot as well. Explain to your wife what you're doing and make her a partner in this journey - and see if you can grow in your connection with her in other means beyond those that overtly lead to sex, a simple hand holding, a kiss as she passes, the warmth of a hand on her leg. I've found these actions can lead to incredible connection without the need to finish it in bed. Also, from the sound of things it sounds like you and your wife might benefit from counseling. I found a great therapist listed on PsychologyToday.com and have found this really helpful when I was going through relationship challenges in my life. Stay strong brother! And know you're not in this alone.
PMO = porn masturbation orgasm. It means masturbating to pornography to the point of orgasm. MO = masturbation to orgasm. edging = masturbation with or without pornography that intentionally stops before the point of orgasm
They definitely are going well so far. My wife is on board with my recovery and hopefully that helps me continue down the right path. I've had a couple urges but nothing too hard to conquer.
