New Looking for Community

Hello,

I am new to the group and the movement. I’m here because I’m tired of hiding from my wife the fact that I watch porn and masturbate. Additionally, the thought of sneaking off in the future when we have kids to masturbate or watch porn strikes me as embarrassing and pathetic, but a reality that was facing me unless I started to make some changes.

I started NoFap on 12/22/22 which also happened to be right before a week long vacation I had scheduled to visit family. That made the initial first week-and-a-half relatively easy to avoid porn and masturbation, but now I am home and have more down time and feel the temptation and longings much more acutely than I did before, but nonetheless I remain committed.

I have found however that today was the toughest day, after last night was the first time my wife and I were intimate since I began this NoFap journey. While the intimacy with my wife was great, it left me craving more today and when she was not in the mood for it I then found myself frustrated and tempted to turn toward porn and masturbation, but thankfully have avoided doing so honestly by writing this post right now.

Would love any wisdom or advice from married men or men in relationships and how they handle having their brain experience an orgasm with their partner and then avoiding the urge to chase after that orgasm again in the near future through masturbation.

Happy to be here and hopeful for the future.

 

Thank you for the response and motivation!