Newbie and Nervous

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Ozzy1, Apr 29, 2019.

  1. Ozzy1

    Ozzy1 Fapstronaut

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    Hello,

    I've finally made the decision to join this community and get a handle on my porn addiction.

    Been a long time coming. Long time.

    My threshold event? I've finally realized that I will NEVER live the life I want...so long as porn is there. And I'm running out of runway.

    No doubt my story is similar to many others. But here's a little background.

    I'm 54 years old. Been married for 32 years to the same woman. Three grown children. No grandchildren. And I've been stuck in the PMO cycle nearly daily for a long time.

    I won't go into details...but like many, I started using PMO as a way to deal with emotional pain when I was a kid.

    I've never cheated on my wife. But sex has always been a bit of a sore spot in our relationship. Mostly from my unrealistic expectations, desires, and fantasies.

    Now, I'm going to join this community and see if I can finally break this destructive habit.

    Anyway, it's nice to know I'm not alone in this. I've been so afraid of being found out for so long it's eaten away at my ability to feel anything but anxious, fearful and frustrated.

    Here's to day 1.
     
  2. determined_new_life

    determined_new_life Fapstronaut

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    Welcome. Good day 1. One step at a time. Have a plan and write it down, nothing complex but something to replace porn is useful like exercise, maybe a new sport, or new form of exercise. Limit your time on phones and the computer. Know that there will be tough times and urges but consider at those times what else you could be doing. Also know that there are rewards from staying away from P. Life becomes brighter, like the old days.
     
  3. bfdet

    bfdet Fapstronaut

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    hi 'ozzy !

    You, and we all, can break the destructive addition of PMO. Its not an easy journey, but the results are worth every bit of effort we put into the process.

    For helpful advice as you begin, if you haven't already done so, read the "getting started guide" available on this site (noFAP) home page. It includes a lot of helpful information. Also check out the "glossary" at the top of this page for terms that may be new or unfamiliar to you.

    Along your journey to healing you may still feel anxious, be fearful, and at times, frustrated. It happens to everybody. There is a lot of advice and support available from folks on this site that are or have experienced many of the same feelings and thoughts as you. Reach out here and you'll find support and help.

    One day at a time is how we all succeed.
     
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  4. Bombadil

    Bombadil Fapstronaut

    Welcome! If you haven't already done so, come and join us in the 40+ section. It's very measured and civilised compared to the young 'uns who seem to be the majority round here!
     

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