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No more smart phone

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Deleted Account, Jun 21, 2020.

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  1. Hello everyone.
    With much consideration, I decided to get rid of my smart phone. After a recent relapse, I just haven't had the discipline to stay away from porn. I have tried many porn blockers and accountability apps but there is always a way around them and the temptation was too much. I feel quite positive about this though. There is something so freeing about not being able to access adult sites. This has been a long time coming because some part of me held onto the idea of a smart phone and the things that it can do. Most of these reasons were to satisfy my ego in some way and the rest I know I can live without. It took careful insight to recognise this and move beyond it.

    If there is anyone who is really struggling because of their technology, there are always other options. My new phone (a brick) can still do whatsapp and can still access the internet but the screen is so small and the keypad takes, lets just say, many moments to use, that it's positively repulsive to use for porn. I laugh trying to use it, but it takes me back to when I was a little boy and I got my first phone. As for social media well, there is plenty of talk about the negative effects of it here and on the internet. At the end of the day we have to think about what is more important in the long term. This doesn't have to be forever, but it will take time.

    I hope anyone who reads this gets inspired to give this a try. Something really has shifted inside me and it feels quite awesome. Going to give NoFap a real go this time. No more sitting around, crying and waiting for things to happen.

    Be happy :)

    Side note: Next time you are in public, take a moment to observe the people around you on their phones. On the bus, on the side walk, RESTAURANTS! It's a smart phone zombie apocalypes out their folks!
     
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  2. I work in a grocery store and for the past few years it’s been the zombie smart phone take over. I decided to get rid of mine as well a few months back, I was using it for unclean things while working.

    Anyway smart decision and good luck keeping it up with this and your struggle.
     
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  3. Finalito

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    What brand / model is your dumb phone?
     
  4. Thank you
     
  5. Its a Nokia 2720 flip phone.
     
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  6. r8js

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    I am in real need of smart phone .....
     
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  7. Awedouble

    Awedouble Fapstronaut

    It's pretty crazy what interpersonal communication has become. A phone is traditionally something you talk in to, voice conversation. Now it's most likely someone checking out their social media feed.

    It was never easy for the people who aren't that social (many if not most?) to reach out even when they go to recovery meetings. Now it's "join our FB group" or something where people will tell themselves they are connected but never have a one on one conversation. Even before the current madness I don't think people ever paid attention to how they're using it. The kind of good shares they hear at a good speaker meeting in recovery groups can be what they're having on the phone, but not if people never talk on the phone.

    Of course with the short attention span now they may actually go to a meeting and hear the speaker and forget about it pretty quickly anyways.
     
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  8. Thats fare enough. This is just an idea for those who can go without.
     
  9. They say it has brought us together, but people have never been so fare apart. It's like loneliness is a pandemic in itself. I think technology is great, I don't want to come across as anti tech, but as a society, we need to start observing the habits we form around them. I know that AA has been hosting meetings on skype during this pandemic all over the world and that it has been of huge benefit for people in recovery because they rely on these meetings so much.
     
  10. r8js

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    I use phone some interesting simple different fun way......and it helped me to avoid loneliness..........it was simple but very strange way to use phone but it helped a lot.....
     
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  12. Awedouble

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    It's helped people be connected, but connection isn't enough. If there is no understanding it may even be better if they are not so connected, though that's basically what echo chambers are - people basically choose to talk to people they agree with rather than even consider different viewpoints.

    Online meetings are better than no meetings, but there are issues that people are not noticing about that. A lot of addicts are already kind of antisocial, if people get used to that and choose not to participate in face to face meetings even once they become available then they will be short changing themselves. As it is a lot of people on here probably don't really see the need for real social support, they probably only ever did this on the forum.
     

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