No pleasure anymore

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Staystrong2020, Jul 19, 2020.

  1. Staystrong2020

    Staystrong2020 Fapstronaut

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    How the title says i cant feel anything anymore. I mean 3 days ago i relapsed after a 2 months streak and i havent obtained any pleasure from watching porn and even crossdressing, cuz yes i got a crossdressing problem too. If you wish you can read more about all my story here: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?t. It is shocking. I had various streaks in my life till 23. The longest one was one year out of PMO. Nowadays im struggling to give up porn for good, but i understood that alone i am not able anymore and the reason why i say its shocking its because even after 2 months of NOFAP , i felt like i fapped 3 days ago when i relapsed. I barely can get an erection even watching porn after a break of 2 months. Im here to ask you guys if there are persons between you that were encountering such an unpleasant situation. I mean 2 months staying out of PMO, I came to the conclusion that even NOFAP is not a solution anymore for my sexual desire, or maybe i must stay out of PMO for 2-3 years to come back.In my first streaks ,after 1-2 months of no PMO, when i relapsed i was like a bomb, very excited and very horny.... now even after 2 months i didnt feel anything. Im so messed up. I feel like at this point of my life only a miracle can save me anymore. I am prepared already to go to the psychiatrist, maybe he can give me some pills to solve my crossdressing problem and my porn and masturbation addiction.
     
  2. DrabToLight

    DrabToLight Fapstronaut

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    It takes time for NoFap to work.


    First, try a 180 day hard reboot.
     
  3. Indurian

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    Things can definitely get better. Much better.

    First of all watch out for the chaser effect over the next few weeks.

    As the person in the previous post said, you will likely need more time away from PMO to see real change. It all depends how deep you went into porn, and if you've been addicted for several years then it isn't realistic that you will fully heal in just a couple of months.

    The plus side is that you are still very young to be dealing with this and you also know that you can do it, given your year long streak.
     
  4. Indurian

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    And to answer your original question, yes your feelings and emotions will return. I don't know why porn addiction does this to us but I felt nothing for a long time. I was numbed to virtually all aspects of life.

    In order to get my life back I took the view that no matter how long it took I would stay away from porn, lust and masturbation. If it takes 1, 2, 10 years just keep going and don't give up
     
  5. Staystrong2020

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    The thing is i am so fucked up that even the chaser effect dissapeared... before, i used to have a strong one after I fapped, now after i fapped 10 days ago, no pleasure at all, not wish at all . Right now not even fapping and porn are a trigger for me... For me abstaining one year from PMO was a big achievment, but it didnt solve anything, as long as i wasnt able to lose my virginity, and now here i am... a 23 years old virgin guy, who will need maybe 1.5-2 years to come back.... I can assert that abstaining one year from PMO was even worse, because when the roots of lust and addiction started to weak i came back to my addiction stronger than before, and i didnt PMO to normal porn, but to sissy porn while being crossdressed. One big deal of this recovery process are also the fantasies. For a normal guy who didn't get involved in strange fantasies is easier, but for someone like me who in the last 5-6 years fapped exclusively to sissy porn while being crossdressed and who hadn't sex not even one time in his life it will be very hard.
    Thank you man for your inspiring words. You are right, the battle must go on, it doesnt matter i will be a virgin 2-3 years from now on, i must abstain from this without ever relapsing again, i know that.
     
  6. Jo-trying

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    Hey,
    I've been battling with this addiction for 25 years, had various streaks of up to 8 months and would fall again and again... What I have noticed is that as long as I get up and try again, the progress I made up to that point is not lost. Anhedonia (inability to feel pleasure), is a normal symptom of addiction and can take a long time to recede. I have noticed improvements (very small, but noticeable), in this area of my life - but you have to put the work in! For me it's routine, gratitude, meditation, exercise, healthy eating, study and daily time for Nofap.
    You will get there, but you have to walk away from pmo for life - p is the greatest tasting poison that will destroy your ambitions, relationships and life. Good luck on your journey to recovery, my friend. Don't give up - you can and will do this!
     
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  7. AveragejOE2020

    AveragejOE2020 Fapstronaut

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    true .. i have stayed out from porn for 5months that was in 2019 march till augstus so yeah..


    but i am addicited now this fall 13years and i am 23 years old


    how long will it take for me to rebout???
     
  8. Indurian

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    Everybody is different but the longer you stay away from it the more things should improve. Your advantage just now is that you are still young. You could still live most of your 20's without porn.

    I think I came to a realisation that my life was and is going to be better without porn and its side effects. I then learned about all the negative aspects of the addiction.
     
  9. Codename47

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    Quit the sissy porn permanently. Don’t watch it and try not to think about it. The moment you think about it distract yourself with TV or something else. It’s causing you to crossdress and that’s only the beginning of your problems if you continue to watch it. A psychiatrist will only sell you pills to make money he doesn’t care about your problem he’s only in it to make money. Do a 90 day reboot and you’ll find freedom
     

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