Hello everyone, I’m new here. I’ve been trying to quit masturbation and pornography for over 7 years now! Without success. The longest I’ve gone during these years is about two months. Recently I managed a month. I don’t want to do it mainly because of religious reasons, but also because I just feel dirty and disgusting afterwards and I feel like it takes away blessings from my life. I also just feel like it is wrong to do. Pornography I feel is wrong because by watching it, I’m feeding the industry and approving the objectification of women. I don’t want to think of women as sexual objects And that’s where I have a major issue. Everytime I see a woman, the first thing I think about is that she is a woman and check to see if she is attractive or not. If she is, then sexual images pop up and I think about the sexual tension and want to have sex with her. Now, imagine this happens everytime you see an attractive / decent looking woman. So whenever I go outside, in crowded places, taking the bus, etc I obviously get very overwhelmed because there are many women around and now that it’s summer they are basically half naked which makes it even more difficult. I honestly cannot wait to get home because it is too much! I try avoiding looking at them or stirring up desires but the desire is still very strong. I naturally have an extremely strong sexual desire. So I want to stop viewing women this way. I don’t want to think about sex whenever I see a woman, I don’t want to objectify her in that way. I also don’t want to have these sexual images. I feel like if I could view women differently then maybe that will help? The other issue is that I usually relapse during sleep. Usually, I suddenly wake up and find myself doing it when half asleep or not as aware as I am when fully awake. Or I wake up and notice a strong urge to masturbate / watch porn. While having this urge, I tell myself that I shouldn’t do it because of x y z but it doesn’t work. A part of me wants to satisfy the desire because constantly resisting the desire causes anxiety and I guess I just want a release. I try telling myself to stop but I just emotionally detach from the situation and end up carelessly doing it any way. Almost feeling like I have to do it and that nothing I say will work. But I know I’ll feel terrible afterwards. I should say that I suffer from constant undiagnosed fatigue, along with other physical ailments that I have not been able to fix. I also suffer from OCD which causes some stress. This might be a reason why I always feel emotionally numb. I can feel emotions but it’s cloudy...foggy and doesn’t fully penetrate through my heart. All these factors I believe contribute to my relapse. So how do you do it? Has anyone stayed free from masturbation and porn for months WITHOUT having sexual relationships? And based on what I have said, does anybody have some advice specifically for me? Thanks for reading. Looking forward to being active on here and hope we can help each other quit these habits.