Please [still enslaved to this loneliness]

It's @IGY 's thread.

 

It's not an argument, by the way. It's a very normal discussion.

 

Please quote where I gave an asinine comment ?
You know that my comments are intended to be constructive and helpful ?
Come on @IGY, get out of the "victim" role, you are an adult!

This is to be considered a constructive comment ?

 

Just let it be man.. your intentions r probably gud so I think igy shud reconsider bt dats upto igy...
He isn't playin a victim.. he's hurt and evry1 need to show sum vulnerability sumtyms... It's gud to let it out and get some assurance..
Igy I advice u to keep ur cool and jst don't reply if u dont lyk wat he's saying..
I'm sorry snow...

 

I know!! And I understand him! I have made similar experiences with my parents !

Again, please understand that I want to help him.

There is an underlying subconscious thinking "I am hurt because that happened to me" - well, the facts are correct, but if you want a life, then you must step out of internal negative loop.

I was depressive for 30 years, and it stoppend when I finally took responsibility for myself.

 

OK I got your point and I completely agree wit u.. wat u r sayin is makin sense to me..
Bt der is tendency to misunderstand dat u r bein arrogant.. gud if dats nt the case.. my English mayb bad bt it's a lesson to u to use ur words better brother...

 

I've also made the call in the past to focus on physical relationships and cut off virtual relationships. So like me, with him it was probably not anything personal. Sometimes you have to be intentional about what you want in your life and what you're prepared to invest in. Enjoy the memories of the good times you had together and move on. A chapter closes and a new one begins. Continue growing.

You do seem very easily upset and then lash out at other users. Hell, I saw that you dug up a months old post to tell the poster he's a cunt because you didn't like his opinion. @SnowWhite has offered great insights and been very patient with you. That's something you should be looking to take advantage of and see what he can teach you about your emotions.

We're all adults here that want to become better people. I'd love to see you really get a grip on your demons, turn your life around, and become a mentor to younger users on this forum.

 

Thanks @Irish Explorer, in fact I can just understand @IGY pretty well.
From my own past and my earlier behaviour, I know that when you leash out, you in fact leash out on yourself.

"How you treat others is how you really feel inside"​

A depression is nothing else than "leashing on yourself".

It all goes down to our past. As a child you need love and care. But if you get hurt instead, then you either cover up, run away or you go in aggressive defense. As an adult, you keep this behaviour, and this is the basis of mental issues and the addiction.

All psychological treatment goes the way that you find the self assurance and love within yourself.

That's what I want to say with "take responsiblity for yourself". I mean it to strengthen oneself.

When you start to decide on your own, when you do the things you really like, and when you are responsible for yourself, then you are growing inside. Your inner self becomes stronger, you will have success, and you begin to believe in yourself again.

And when you are in consent with yourself, you will be also be other people.

BTW, I went all the same way, because I had no nice childhood either. Otherwise I wouldn't be on this site.

 

One of the best is to focus on buildig up things you want to build.

Your energy can either be burnt up in PMO ezesses or in creating things.

 

Igy

I completely agree wid Irish when he calls online relationships as virtual.. they cnt go on forever

I'm sorry abt the disorder man... dats terrible.
I asked u y u made a big deal out of this online friendship bt nw I understand y u r affected so much.. hope u find peace soon.

 

IGY, I've

IGY, I have seen you around Nofap and regard you as encourager. Thanks for sharing your hurts too. All the best to you.