Porn Addiction as a whole.

Porn addiction is just a subtype of sexual addiction. If you replace obscene images with mental porn, you really haven't addressed the route of the problem. In fact, if you focus solely on P and not M, you run of the risk of convincing yourself that you can MO to "anything that isn't porn" with impunity.

Even if your masturbation addition is linked to porn now, removing P while still MO-ing will just cause to associate other things with MO.

 

Well, when I hear some of my friends talking about how they don't give a **** about unprotected sex, I think we should teach both, not one instead of another But I get the idea.
Very few people are aware that porn can affect the brain, and I hope that one day people will start to understand. Just go out and talk to a doctor, as I did. 30 years ago erectile disfunction problems amongst young people (18-25) were absolutely not as big as today. And PIED is only the tip of the iceberg of course.

I wouldn't say that porn addiction is a subtype of sexual addiction though. I think we should make more studies about this because it's complicated to understand but I wouldn't consider myself addicted to sex?

 

In fact, it is.

The two biggest natural rewards are food and sex. This is a "natural reward" addiction, and it isn't food. Therefore... it's sex.

On the topic of porn addiction, this is an abnormality of human behavior. It is still our monkey brain trying stopping our rationality to interfere in order to make conscious choices.

This problem is starting to boom in the scientific world, and in the "fapped-like-crazy guys" world. But it's not rolled out to the general public. Stills appears in very few TV shows and that's an indicator.

The other biggest natural reward addiction is food, and we constantly see products, TV shows, even entire channels dedicated to fitness, etc.

This is new, and sadly, many, many, many more guys are yet to become addicted and get their erectile dysfunctions.

Actually let me foresee, it will get way worse once porn gets even more hardcore than it is now, and 13 year-olds are jerking off to rape scenes.

All we can do is inform the people we care about and to the people who want to listen, like I do on my blog.

However, what I'm not going to do is to be "the soldier of porn freedom" (I mean, to all people) because people just don't listen at this stage of the problem, as they didn't with cigarettes, high-calorie food, you name it...

 

I may have misunderstood sex addiction with sexual intercourse addiction then, sorry. I am a human so of course I'd be happy to have sex soon but even though I have a girlfriend I don't really care if we don't do it now. Meanwhile, I know that I could perfectly relapse and masturbate five times today, because my brain is still asking for it sometimes.

But then we should talk about orgasm addiction ? Lol in the end it doesn't really matter...

 

Don't forget that most porn these days is delivered over the Internet. It's fucking free!
Online gambling and gaming are also seriously compelling, habit forming and largely anti-social.
It's not just P
It's not just M
It's not just O
It's also the Internet and computer technology.

It's too easy to click and get a shot of dopamine.

 

Isn't the Internet and computer technology the reason for the "porn boom" in the first place? Years prior, erotic material was distributed by limited supply of magazines and VHS videos.

 

Since we're talking about Internet and technologies I must also admit that I feel better since I spend way less time on my computer and deactivated my facebook account !

 

To clarify what I said, I'm not saying that porn is OK. Likewise, I am not saying virtually unlimited access to hardcore fetish porn isn't bad. However, porn is just means to satisfy "orgasm addiction" (for lack of a better term.) Now, it may be true that porn is a cause of a given person's orgasm addiction. However, once the addiction is established, simply removing P, while still MO-ing, does not address the underlying problem.

It might be possible for someone to MO one or twice a week without lapsing back into addition. However, telling someone that there is a "safe level of MO" or "MO is fine without porn", will often lead people into a false sense of security.

 

I think the biggest problem with MO is it can easily lead to PMO again, or simply change the face of the addiction.

For instance if you MO or just O with a girl in an intimate, "normal" way, that's fine.

But if you just MO fantasazing alone in your room, it's pretty hard to avoid that fantasazing to turn into hardcore images, or to turn into an addiction in some other unexpected way.

Even if go into MO in a very cerebral, conscious way, it is by nature a very emotional thing... I find it very hard. That's why, to avoid any confusion, and since I don't have a girlfriend, go No-PMO.

If I had a girlfriend I would approach this very differenty, that's for sure.

 

I think this is dependent on the the person and their life experiences.

My current aim is to stop watching P and MO from them, for as long as I can. As for the fantasies, I don't know if they would go completely away due to my situation and issues. I will try to at least minimise them.

To completely be free from such things is not realistic for me. The desires are there and I'm easily triggered. Like what some have said, it's something some of us have to live with, but try our hardest to not engage or indulge in.

I'm not saying I should go back and "manage" my time around pmo. That's a slippery road to addiction again. I don't want to head down that path.

However, to be free from fantasies and MO when I'm not in any intimate relationship, especially in my current state? I'm not sure how likely that is (unless I somehow work around my other issues).

All I know now, is that I don't want to waste time and energy on pmo.

EDIT: My apologies, I need to try to clarify on what I said.

I do not want to waste my time or energy on pmo, fantasies and mo.
I have not mo'd, since I took on this journey. I avoid both pmo and mo for as long as I can. It is not something I plan at the end of a set period of time, so pmo, fantasies and mo are not the things I look forward too.

However, I cannot say for certain if fantasies and mo in the future will exist or not for me. I'm not even sure how long this whole thing will last for me. I know I sound very pessimistic and confusing, but I guess it's part and parcel of trying to find the person that I am and somehow develop myself.