Problems with girls

Floweringfarmer · Aug 25, 2020

Kramum said: ↑

Just a minute. How can you know what girls like if you're a virgin?
To say people don't care about looks is daydreaming lol.
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Of course there must be a physical connection between 2 people. But looks is not the most important thing if you ask me.

The Prisoner-335698 · Aug 25, 2020

Kramum said: ↑

Just a minute. How can you know what girls like if you're a virgin?
To say people don't care about looks is daydreaming lol.
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I never said i knew what girls like, i just observe what's going on around me and draw conclusions from it.
Look around you
Who gets laid more ? The weirdo staying quiet in the corner or the dude in the middle of the action cracking jokes having a good time and making others have a good time ?
The fact is that i have friends that are not very attractive or even downright ugly that are able to get into a relationship and get laid BECAUSE they are funny to be around and they are assertive.

InappropriateUsername · Aug 25, 2020

Protector of Hope said: ↑

I detect a problem right here. It's always the same thing with people like you.

People find you ugly. Maybe it's true, maybe it isn't. Who cares except you my friend? You are ugly, then what? Should it prevent you from living your fucking life to its fullest? Absolutely not. Life is much more than dating girls you know. Way, way more than that, and it's a big mistake to think that having a girlfriend will make you happy, because the truth is, it's just bullshit.

You become happy with yourself first and foremost. You build skills, you find yourself goals, you work on them, you get the thing. Being virgin and focusing on losing your virginity shouldn't be your priority at all, at least not until you have a stable and fulfilling life. See, there are plenty of dudes out there, same age as you, who have a girlfriend, a job, who get out often...etc. Do you really think they are happy? They are not. Most people aren't happy. Why? Because they lack purpose. They lack meaning. They lack passion. They chase women and get drunk to forget how shitty their lives are and how insecure they are deep inside. You can see it in their eyes. That's what society wants you to become: a body without a soul, wandering around in the journey of life in autopilot mode.

I'm trying to make you understand that everything you think will make you happy is just an illusion. Personally, I'm tall and handsome, and yet I'm still virgin at 19 years old and will probably stay one for a couple of years. My life story is a bit weird but anyway. The point is, I don't even give a shit, cause my priorities are straight. I have goals, I know where I'm going, and I also know that once I will be successful, I will have plenty of time to experience what all those zombies out there consider "living life", whatever that means.

I want you to do the same. Stop focusing on meangliness things, and know who you are. Build yourself up, become the best version of yourself, and then you might want a girlfriend. Not the contrary. Otherwise, it will lead you absolutely nowhere.

Keep hope, and stay strong.
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Strong is the Force with this one.

As a man of several decades I can tell you this is absolutely true. Women, sex, girlfriends, etc. will not make you happy unless you’re happy with you.

We have to stop thinking our happiness is intrinsically tied up in others. It’s not. Happiness with others comes from being comfortable with ourselves and being able to give ourselves freely to another without the expectation they’re gonna “fix us.”

I think you realize this somewhat. Definitely start going to the gym. Read. Build something. Take a trip somewhere by yourself (traveling alone gives you incredible perspective). Do something that scares the shit out of you. Get comfortable with who you are. Start a martial art. Nobody is putting limitations on you except you.

Deleted Account · Aug 25, 2020

NineInchMale said: ↑

Strong is the Force with this one.

As a man of several decades I can tell you this is absolutely true. Women, sex, girlfriends, etc. will not make you happy unless you’re happy with you.

We have to stop thinking our happiness is intrinsically tied up in others. It’s not. Happiness with others comes from being comfortable with ourselves and being able to give ourselves freely to another without the expectation they’re gonna “fix us.”

I think you realize this somewhat. Definitely start going to the gym. Read. Build something. Take a trip somewhere by yourself (traveling alone gives you incredible perspective). Do something that scares the shit out of you. Get comfortable with who you are. Start a martial art. Nobody is putting limitations on you except you.
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Thank you for confirming it sir.

Deleted Account · Sep 19, 2020

Protector of Hope said: ↑

I detect a problem right here. It's always the same thing with people like you.

People find you ugly. Maybe it's true, maybe it isn't. Who cares except you my friend? You are ugly, then what? Should it prevent you from living your fucking life to its fullest? Absolutely not. Life is much more than dating girls you know. Way, way more than that, and it's a big mistake to think that having a girlfriend will make you happy, because the truth is, it's just bullshit.

You become happy with yourself first and foremost. You build skills, you find yourself goals, you work on them, you get the thing. Being virgin and focusing on losing your virginity shouldn't be your priority at all, at least not until you have a stable and fulfilling life. See, there are plenty of dudes out there, same age as you, who have a girlfriend, a job, who get out often...etc. Do you really think they are happy? They are not. Most people aren't happy. Why? Because they lack purpose. They lack meaning. They lack passion. They chase women and get drunk to forget how shitty their lives are and how insecure they are deep inside. You can see it in their eyes. That's what society wants you to become: a body without a soul, wandering around in the journey of life in autopilot mode.

I'm trying to make you understand that everything you think will make you happy is just an illusion. Personally, I'm tall and handsome, and yet I'm still virgin at 19 years old and will probably stay one for a couple of years. My life story is a bit weird but anyway. The point is, I don't even give a shit, cause my priorities are straight. I have goals, I know where I'm going, and I also know that once I will be successful, I will have plenty of time to experience what all those zombies out there consider "living life", whatever that means.

I want you to do the same. Stop focusing on meangliness things, and know who you are. Build yourself up, become the best version of yourself, and then you might want a girlfriend. Not the contrary. Otherwise, it will lead you absolutely nowhere.

Keep hope, and stay strong.
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I feel like giving a like in this comment is not enough.

Queek The HeadTakker · Sep 19, 2020

InappropriateUsername said: ↑

Strong is the Force with this one.
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Grahhhh force ???? Pfffff force is weak ! The Warpstone is strong with this one!! Yesyesyes

Deleted Account · Sep 20, 2020

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I understand you. I've been in the same situation as you. But you need to understand one thing:

What we think of ourselves is reflected on the outside. No one is going to save you. No one will love you for who you are until you really love yourself unconditionally. No matter what happens to you. Regardless of your past, your fears, your doubts.

Work on yourself. Expand your limits.
Go to the gym, eat healthy. Talk to the girls you find attractive in your everyday life. Find some fucking meaning in your life and go for it. Don't give up and do things at 3000%.
No matter what your mental state, failures, doubts, keep going.

I'm the same age as you. But the trigger I got 2 years ago. Since that day, I approach the girls I like in the street, in the stores, in the evening, sober.
I go to the gym almost every day. I eat well. I have found this fucking meaning to my life and I will not stop for anything in the world. Because I can finally say that I love myself for who I am with my frailties.

You can follow my journal if you want.

You only have one life. One day you will die. It's up to you to see what image of yourself you want to have on the last day of your life.

Queek The HeadTakker · Sep 20, 2020

SPIRITUSS said: ↑

Work on yourself. Expand your limits.
Go to the gym, eat healthy.
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Yep thats what i do and i love myself and i can say i really attract very hot girls since 2 years ago but i still cant go talk with them , im afraid of that ....it bothers me alot.....thats why im on nofap

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