I am really not sure why people have to make them two different things? They are both betrayal. I think pmo addicts try to differentiate because of it is cheating to them it’s much worse so if it’s just some porn it’s not equivalent. It’s a way to justify staying in an addiction. When a partner has an affair the part that hurts women the most is the secrecy. But woman has an affair to most men it’s about another man touching his wife physically. So I think men say I did not touch anyone so I did not cheat. With PMO the betrayal is worse than the act. In the scheme of things it really does not matter what others think but what your partner does. If he or she tells you they think it’s cheating then arguing semantics about how most people don’t or you don’t is useless.
Tomato, tomaaahto. Betrayal (which can include any type of lying) is harmful to a committed relationship. Period. Cheating (to me) is a more elementary word --- such as cheating on a spelling test, hiding a card during a card game, or a contractor "double-dipping" by charging a person twice for one item. It can go on and on. The word betrayal has deeper connotations. Some people differentiate between sex addiction and porn addiction too. I believe porn addiction (if it's truly "only porn") is a form of sex addiction. Many porn addicts escalate. It's part of the addictive process. It's good if a porn addict realizes he/she has a problem and begins recovery before he/she takes the addiction to web cams, strip clubs/lap dances, prostitutes (yes, sexy massage is prostitution), or, or, or, etc.
These. I try to explain them all the time. Just going to save this.... Because I feel like these snippets said it better than I have been.
