Quit porn and find you passion.

without porn i can concentrate much better.

for example learning english. since two weeks i am learning vocabulary like a lunatic. everyday nearly four hours.

i think this is a passion. learning languages - this addiction is much healthier.

i am sure you have hobbies - concentrate on one of them.

 

it has been hard for me. I have been struggling with the same thoughts--wondering if my passions are for real, or wondering if passion in general is dead because of my PMO habits. I think the best thing to do is live a full whole life and do things that interest you. Do hard challenging things as well. For me I am still struggling to find what my passions are. Some people don't have any and that is ok. Just remember that you are still a human being who is capable and wonderful even if you don't have passions. Don't let anyone else decide the kind of life you want to live unless it is something detrimental like porn. THEN someone has every right to tell you what you should do to keep you sane and healthy--because as we all know porn is just not good for you and you are pretty much turning into a zombie if you watch it. So stay clean!

 

I'm still pretty new to quitting. The most I've gone for is a week, and I had relapsed twice before that. I have several 'passions' in life. I love fishing, reading, scifi/fantasy books/shows/movies and my job (I'm a firefighter by profession and I volunteer). If I'm not at work I've been getting depressed, lonely, and BORED which has led to relapsing. One thing I'm starting to realize though is if I detach myself from my house and force myself to go do one of the things I enjoy, it definitely takes my mind off of things and puts me in a much better mood. I should add that when the PMO got worse, I lost interest in work, volunteering and the rest of the things I enjoyed and replaced them. Over the past month, I still didn't want to do those things but forced myself to, and once I did I started enjoying them again.

My suggestions are to just keep trying new things, no matter how appealing or unappealing they seem. Pick up a book, there are plenty of newer young adult (it doesn't matter if you're a 'young' adult now or not) novels that are real page turners. Maybe try kayaking, or bowling, or woodworking, or fishing, or golf. Who knows until you force yourself to try them. And don't just half ass it, really try your best to get into it.

 

u will surely find passion just keep on going. First of all the remorse will be gone. You will have plenty of healthy time to do good work. And most important ur way of thinking will automatically change. So quit porn.

 

I think I have found passion.

I write a lot, to clear my head. Porn-free time has allowed me to go over notes, finding repeated concepts that indicate my values, preferences, and desires for the future. From that, I've begun to plan ways to incorporate these things into my life. Working out my passions has become a passion in itself.

And yes, porn was killing my ability to feel passion. I'd considered myself pretty passionless, but this changes the more I pay attention to who I am and what I feel.

It took a long time to even understand what passion is - I thought it was someone who lacked emotional restraint. Now, I'd say it's knowing who I am and pursuing what I believe will satisfy me deeply.

Keep at it.

 

PMO makes you numb to life and then you can't find your passion. But its not porn alone, its along with masturbation. You have to quit both, then everything in your life will clear up. but it can take time, long time...