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Rehab needed URGENTLY.

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Jakes, Nov 28, 2019.

  1. Jakes

    Jakes Fapstronaut

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    Whats up everyone.. Im not exactly new to the NoFap community. I signed up in 2014 but never used NoFap, so basically this is my first time actually using NoFap as I now truly realize the pathetic state that Im in. Ill try my best to keep this intro short as possible..

    Ive been addicted to PMO since 2010 and ever since then my life has been a downward spiral. I lost my magnetism, I lost my personality, I became such a different person because of it, I never experienced true relationships with people, I had the most humiliating experiences with woman when I just would not be able to achieve an erection as porn was the only thing that got me hard. I was regularly blasting money on escorts to live out my porn fantasies. I honestly completely lost myself and my happiness. I did almost beat PMO when I was in a long term relationship because i always had the option of sex BUT even then I still had to use Erectile Dysfunction pills almost every weekend when I was with my chick. Imagine a healthy young athletic guy who needs pills to get an erection, but thats just how porn ruined me. It got better but I never really escaped my porn addiction. The fantasies were still there, I would still PMO like once a week and I honestly think the longest Ive went without it was 3 weeks since 2010, but its safe to say that Ive officially relapsed back into regular PMO.

    So this is the current situation.. Im 24, unemployed, broke, Im a stoner and to add to the mix Ive started jerking off to porn everyday. Porn just killed my drive to get anything done in the real world. Im literally the definition of a loser and I know its all my fault for allowing porn to consume me like this. I tried to break free but I now realize after almost 10 years, (What an idiot right ?) that I havent really been trying, I just kept telling myself I was but subconsciously porn was always there like a disease. I cant believe Ive let it come to this and ive wasted so much potential but theres no point crying over spilt milk. I just desperately need help from you guys, for the almost 10 years that ive been going through this, I had nobody to speak to and basically dealt with everything myself. Im an even bigger idiot for not using this forum all those years ago. But I am sick of this now and its time for me to wake up because 10 years of my life have just been wasted and if i dont stop NOW then I know it just may be another 10 years.. Please help me guys. I will be signing into NoFap everyday to keep my mind right, but any other tips and inspiration would be greatly appreciated. Im planning a 3 month reboot of no PMO.. Do you guys think this will be sufficient to reboot me after close to 10 years of PMO addiction ?

    Thanks everyone.
     
  2. keepitinmybriefs

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    Welcome! Good luck on your nofap journey! I hope you find what you're looking for!
     
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  3. Stag99

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    Welcome to the forum Jakes.
    My first suggestion is to educate yourself on this addiction by reading up on it.
    The more you understand why you are so attracted to porn, and how this addiction works,
    The better equipped you are to fight it.

    I recommend reading books like “No more mr nice guy” and “the porn trap” for starters.
    They will give you concrete steps you can take to work towards recovery.
    Good luck !
     
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  4. Jakes

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    Thanks a lot.. I actually just ended up jerking off again a few minutes ago even after posting about how I plan on rebooting. Guess thats just how badly I need to take this seriously, but Ill post a new thread on that later. Could you please tell me the authors of those books ? I googled it now and see theres a few books with the same title but different author.
     
  5. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    Getting Started Guide | How to Use the NoFap Forums | Panic Button | Day Counter | Rebooting Resources | Forum Rules | Glossary

    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    You can also take part in one of the many challenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges

    Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
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  6. Stag99

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    “No more mr nice guy” is written by Dr Robert Glover
    The title is misleading, it sounds like a book on how to start acting like a jerk, but it’s not.
    Probably one of the most helpful books I’ve ever read on the subject of pmo addiction.
    I felt like the book was written about me, that’s how well this guy understands pmo addiction.
    Highly reccomended.

    “The Porn Trap” is also a good book, written by Wendy and Larry Maltz.
    It has some good steps you can take to reduce relapse frequency.
     
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  7. Jakes

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    Thanks alot.. I will definitely be getting that book especially if you say it covers PMO addiction. Highly appreciated!
     
  8. Jakes

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    Thank you !
     
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  9. Hi @Jakes, all the best to you! If you want to join 'The Matrix' challenge click here> 'The Matrix'
     

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