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Reset, Relapse or carry on?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by bumpyhelodermatidae, Jan 29, 2018.

  1. bumpyhelodermatidae

    bumpyhelodermatidae Fapstronaut

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    Unfortunately looked at a netflix film with nudity on purpose (because I knew there was nudity and sex). I got to the interesting bit but as soon as the actress got naked (was not shown on screen) I closed the window immediately and did not see the rest. Didi I relapse? I find this happening to me quite a lo. I just want to look at triggering stuff, I look for it, I find it, but right before the interesting bit or a second after the interesting bit started I just close the window and go do something else. N.B.: I am not touching myself with the intention of masturbating when this happens.

    Als: can someone explain what a reset actually is?

    Thanks
     
  2. bumpyhelodermatidae

    bumpyhelodermatidae Fapstronaut

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    In case you are wondering: I am attempting a hardmode reboot
     
  3. bumpyhelodermatidae

    bumpyhelodermatidae Fapstronaut

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    All right, for anyone in the same situation: according to the hardcore nofappers this classifies as a relapse.
     
  4. bumpyhelodermatidae

    bumpyhelodermatidae Fapstronaut

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    And yet to some other fapstronauts it´s not! Could someone please answer me? It´s driving me nuts, should I reset my counter?
     
  5. New Focus

    New Focus Fapstronaut

    It depends what is more important- recovery or protecting your counter. We set our own rules for what a relapse is- this is for our counters.

    If recovery is what you want, you cannot continue with those actions.

    In all my years on these types of boards (2 decades) generally when someone questions if something was a reset, it generally is.
     
  6. Either way, you are playing with fire. The seeking out and searching for stuff is part of what causes the surge of dopamine. At some point you will look at the sexy part and then the urge to PMO could be extreme.
     
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  7. I haven't seen the term used for quite a while on the forums, but this behaviour has been called "juicing". :eek: Perhaps the juice being referred to is the dopamine released when you are in anticipation of something sexually triggering. So, I agree with @Immature that you are doing something which will ultimately lead on to an urge to act out that you cannot resist. :(

    To reset or not to reset? My personal opinion is no. But do not use that as a way of falsely rationalizing that what you are doing is OK. It is not conducive to a successful reboot. Maybe, if you do this again you should reset just to get it through to you that this shit has gotta stop. It's really up to you bumpy.
     
  8. bumpyhelodermatidae

    bumpyhelodermatidae Fapstronaut

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    Ok thanks for all the replies, I felt like crap immediately after watching that. I managed to not watch any porn for the last 40 days and not masturbate for 7, but I just have this massive problem with edging( this is what I would call my above problem) and I cannot get rid of it no matter how hard I try. I was wondering: Is this harmful just because it will lead me to PMO or also because it is a porn sub or outright porn and it releases the same chemicals in my brain fuelling my addiction without going to an actual p site? I just feel like s.. : I was a heavy porn user for years, managed to make significant improvements but I still cannot walk that last yard to complete freedom....
     
  9. bumpyhelodermatidae

    bumpyhelodermatidae Fapstronaut

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    I just reset my counter, it did not feel right
     
  10. The Glossary defines edging as follows:

    "Edging:
    Masturbation without orgasm."

    So some other word would better describe what you were doing. I think it's "peeking", but I'm not always sure which terms mean what here.
     
  11. bumpyhelodermatidae

    bumpyhelodermatidae Fapstronaut

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    Thanks man, I just cannot stop peeking, I do it subconsciously, I looked at pics of girls on fb today not because I wanted to, it´s bc I´ve always done it and I have not even remembered that I should not do this anymore. Hope I remember next time and hope this does not affect all of the good things I have been experiencing lately due to nofap.
     
  12. New Focus

    New Focus Fapstronaut

    The word that I think you are looking for is Intentional.

    I have made this the crux of my recovery. I am telling you it made all the difference. I cruised towards a month without intentional searching.

    My counter is at 2 days because I did that intentional action and I fell.

    My moto; Just.Don't.Start.
     

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