I have an attachment to pornography. If you are reading this then you probably do to. For the past year it has been this constant struggle to change the habit. I say to myself don't do it, don't do it and in this, there is a contradiction in my mind. Contradiction being the me who wants to use porn and the me that doesn't. Sometimes, I have pulled away for a few days but it returns with full force and the struggle continues until I end up giving in, just to satisfy the craving. There is something wrong with this approach. clearly it doesn't work and after reading some posts on this forum, I think the majority of us are trying to fix this with with the same contradiction and struggle. Only to fall back into the habit and get frustrated as to why it keeps happening. I sat alone with myself for a while and contemplated this fact until I discovered this contradiction in my mind. I think we fail to see it because we have separated ourselves from the addiction. We are treating it as if it is something separate from ourselves and so we say "I must stop this, I must change" This is not the fact. The fact is we are not separate from the addiction, we are the addiction, or it is a part of us. So by judging or condemning it we are really judging and condemning ourselves and this is where the struggle and frustration comes from. I really hope that someone understands this. It really is quite important and it doesn't just go with porn, but with every aspect of our lives. But we will leave that aside for now and focus on the attachment to porn. When the urge to use porn came up, I sat with it and observed the whole process of it. The feeling in my body as well as the chattering of my mind. It was not very easy but the more I put my attention on it without trying to suppress it or control it, I noticed how the urge had no power over me. It was just there and I was just seeing it for what it is. Seeing the fact of it, the wanting and the not wanting together as one part. It feels so freeing because control had nothing to do with it, or will power, it was just observation. I don't know, maybe this is crazy but I feel like it works. The urge is there but the contradiction is not.