Seems impossible to stop

[TimHar91]

Hello guys, I dont really no what to say but I just want to tell someone what I'm going through.

So I've been using porn since I was about 14 years old. For me its always been escapism from the world, life issues and problems stack up one by one until you feel so overwhelmed you just need something to take your mind away for an hour or so, then once it's over all I feel is guilt and shame.

These days I dont find myself being addicted to your regular porn site, but sites like omegle and dirtyroulette. Talking with men or woman about the most horrible and disturbing things, I've been using porn for so long I'm so desensitized to it that it doesn't 'get me off' instead I have to find that next high by speaking about things that differ so much from my own values and moral compass. I also spend hours going through Instagram looking at pictures and following accounts that just sexualise woman and make it seem so normal. I block these sites but then when I have erges I just unblock them again.

I've tried going NoFap alone, But I just can't do it. I struggle to last a day with a relapse, I want to take control over my life and rebuild my self worth. Any advice would be awesome because right now I feel like I'm at rock bottom

 

[| Nico |]

Hey mate, welcome to nofap good to have you here.

I always thought it was impossible to quit, i can relate to your story. What i would suggest is find a reason why you want to quit that was the biggest help for me i was always trying to quit becuase iam a mormon and i went to confess my addiction to my bishop and he recommended a recovery group in the chruch. I was attending but with no start or end goal in mind i was still convinced that it was ok to watch porn and masturbate becuase i didnt know much about it. but after i would PMO id always say to myself this is wrong and felt that quilt and shame. But one day probably about 2 months ago i was researching why is porn bad for you, i understood all the spiritual side of it but not the scientific. Slowly i was getting convinced it was bad for me and month ago i found NoFap and read all about this addiction i was filled with hope and knowledge i never had and that kickstarted my journey and iam 32days free from porn and masturbation. I would never ever done it if it wasnt for NoFap and this amazing community. It has not been easy for me all the time i had lots of ups and downs but if you stay focused and have your goal in mind you'll succeed. If i could do it anyone can

What i would suggest you do is be very active on nofap read other people's journals, educate yourself, probably most importantly write your journal down, write all your feelings thoughts, urges anything you can think of, you can either do it on NoFap or in Private thats up to you but i find going online with this is the best thing becuase you can get feedback and support from other people. If you truly know why you want to quit then it becomes much easier.

I hope this helps, i just wrote down what i felt at the moment, i still dont know everything but if you have anymore questions or need extra help let me know and i will try my best to help you out.

Take care, God bless

 

[Shadow_Monk]

Welcome brother. Your story sounds familiar. Alone doesn't really work - this addiction thrives in secrecy. Agree with @nico2211, instead of going to the chat sites, come here. Live on this site if you need to. Read, journal, learn, distract... use it for whatever you need to start breaking the cycle of addiction. You started your recovery the minute you closed that last browser tab. Whether you continue the journey is up to you.

What I wish I knew when I started: you don't have to do it perfectly. I did a 10 day streak, then slipped, then a 13 day streak, then slipped, etc. There's a lot of focus on day-counters around here, and going back to zero days felt like such a loss. But I wasn't truly at zero, because those mini streaks still taught me stuff, and I was learning how to live without the PMO crutch for the first time in my life. Days don't matter. Being free from addiction is what counts.

Also, have a goal. Even if its a very short term goal. I recommend starting with "Not one peek, just for today" meaning not even one peek at porn for a whole day, no matter what. From there you can figure out what goals you want to set for yourself and then start making it happen. Good luck to you brother, you can absolutely do this!

 

[Wolfgirl]

Finding motivation is one of the biggest things. Realizing why you want to quit and the benefits of quitting. It can also be very beneficial to get help irl. Like going to saa meetings or something so people in real life can keep you accountable and help to keep you motivated. Maybe using people to distract you or keep you busy like going to movies or hanging out. Relapses are hard, but if you keep trying you will find that it gets a little easier over time. I’m not going to lie, it’s a hard battle and takes time, but it will get easier to ignore the urges. There will be good days and there will be bad days, but ultimately it’s the effort that matters. In a way you have to reprogram your mind to prefer old fashioned sex instead of PMO.

 

[The Free Bird]

Hi and welcome to the community

I would recommend you to stay in touch with members and read their success stories. You may also learn tricks to avoid the short-term pleasure and to face the temptations.

Be AWARE of your habits and control what you see and what/who you spend your time with.

It's also important to limit the usage of social media. In addition, never be free! Use your free time as much as possible and do sports, exercise, attend classes, etc.

This video contains everything that you need to know about porn addiction. Lastly, here is a collection of ways to deal with the urges which worked great for me.

֍ You got this my friend ֍​