I dont know if this has come up before, but i think its worth mentioning as it was the cornerstone of my 2 years without porn. I made a character shift where I decided I wasn't going to let me self worth be affected by anything I did or did not do. Once I started to think this way I found a strength I had not had before. You when you are facing life you need to bring your A game, but if life is constatnly knocking your selfworth around you won't be able to do this. Taking PMO as an example, If that was your goal it would take a strong possitve outlook on your self to achieve it, ah "I CAN DO IT" mentality but if at a hurdle along the way you stumble and you allow it to effect your self worth then not only did you stumble but you have diminished your ability to achieve your goal. Instead if you acknowledge failure but not allow it to define you or be a measure of you then you remain a strong person to face your goal. Remember you are not your Addiction Nor are you Failure, You are You nothing more nothing less and everything else is just logistics.
