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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by jocusk84, Oct 18, 2014.

  1. Oct 18, 2014 #1
    jocusk84

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    Hi I'm jocusk. I'm new to this. I'm 30 and am currently studying to be a priest and I've been doing it for 12 years. I've had trouble with masturbation and porn for the better part of ten years. However, I realized it was a problem for me about five years ago. I do a lot of good for a lot of people, I'm an effective minister however I've realized that I have to work on myself just as I help so many.
    Fapping hasn't taken over my life to the point that I'm not able to function. However, I've realized that I'm not in a good place and this is spiraling downward fast and has potential to take me to a place I don't want to go. I'm not an addict however I'm not far from it.
    I'm looking to entrust myself to God. Take baby steps. But I want to conquer this because the last thing I would want to do is cause scandal. (I would never do anything with a minor...for those who thought that). I'm afraid because if I fail and mess around with a woman it has potential to be in the news, ruin my reputation, and will negatively effect the faith lives of many. Fapping doesn't reflect my values however its been an outlet for me to deal with the stressors of being in the seminary. I'm glad to belong to a community of people who are trying to break the cycle also.

    If you guys want to reach out to me for prayer. Know that I will remember you in prayer and I ask you to keep me in yours. I would appreciate your encouragement.
     
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  2. Oct 19, 2014 #2
    JasonC

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    I can relate to much of what you're saying as I'm in a position of leadership in my church as well. Thanks for the encouragement you left on my introduction post. You're in my prayers.
     
    JasonC, Oct 19, 2014
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  3. Oct 25, 2014 #3
    Manofheart

    Manofheart New Fapstronaut

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    Hey man, good to see your story here. Kinda funny how similar our timeframes are! I'm 30 myself and was in a religious community for a number of years, completing a priestly formation program but leaving before final vows and ordination. Now I'm working for a church and applying for formation with my diocese.

    If I can be of any help, let me know!
     
    Manofheart, Oct 25, 2014
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  4. Oct 25, 2014 #4
    Earnest Lee

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    @jocusk84-
    I'd encourage you to think about getting one of the day counters (you can see them in the signature of each post) For me the counter helped me to come to the self-knowledge that I've been doing much worse with this than I've led myself to believe. I've also found the counter really motivating- I can see it's only been 6 days since I've last fallen into it- so there's no way I'm going to give in right now.

    Also- cold showers.
     
    Earnest Lee, Oct 25, 2014
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  5. Oct 26, 2014 #5
    noname11

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    I'm a very religious person as well. I'm also very active in my church. Even though I know that statistically many of the men I associate with at church (and, I suppose, women) probably struggle with the same things I do, it is often hard for me not to feel like a liar and a phony when I'm around them. I know the leader of my congregation would be open to talking and helping me, but I'm not there yet and I honestly don't know if I ever will be. I can imagine the struggle of feeling like you're moving in one direction with your words and most of your actions but moving in another with.... other parts. Sometimes I think about how Jesus said if your right arm offend you to cut it off... but I think (hope?) that he was being more metaphorical when he said that. Regardless, I'd rather, as I'm sure you would, find a way to work together with God to discipline myself. Good luck to you in those efforts, and I'll pray for you when I pray for myself.
     
    noname11, Oct 26, 2014
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  6. Oct 26, 2014 #6
    eldish

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    You can do it. There are plenty of guys out there that were addicted to porn at one time and now don't look at it. Let me know if I can help you in any way!
     
    eldish, Oct 26, 2014
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