Sexting addiction ?

Morning, everyone,

I'm new here, I've been trying to stop PM for about three weeks now. I've had a girlfriend for two years now, with whom I have a rich and exhilarating relationship. With her, as with my previous partners, I had to face after two or three months a rather drastic drop in my libido (at least the one directed at her). Thanks to the discussions and the honesty we showed towards each others, we have a kind of precarious balance (I now perceive sexual relations as a conjugal duty more than as a real impulsive pleasure). Even though I've already made attempts to reduce my porn consumption, it's only since I discovered NoFap that I've really been able to stop watching porn for such a long time (thanks mainly to Pluckeye).
So what am I complaining about then? I'm just noticing that with this rehab, one of my old demons is reappearing: sexting. Since I've been sleeping with girls, I've always been a fan of virtual sex, and I'm very excited by erotic conversations by message, especially when they take place with "forbidden" people (exs, friends with whom my relationship is ambiguous). With the end of porn, my impulse to write this kind of message has skyrocketed, and for the moment I only owe my resistance to the fact that I'm in quarantine with my girlfriend... I'm afraid I'll relapse with sexting once I'm back in my apartment, without the risk of her catching me in one of these conversations.
So, sorry for this long post, but I couldn't find any thread on the subject in my research, and I was wondering if sexting was also a problem for some of you during their cure, and if you had any tips/thoughts to offer on the subject?
Good luck to all of you,

 

Thanks for the advice ELN and Ali, on my side I don't have a smartphone anymore and I almost don't use social networks anymore, so I have less temptation to relaunch my contacts on this kind of conversations. What disappoints me the most about this is that I've been able to make healthy relationships with some of these girls evolve into something ambiguous, even sexual, just to satisfy frustrated impulses. Anyway, I hope you find solutions on your side too!

 

Hey mastabande,
I have been in the similar situation years ago and the only advice I can give you is: stay away from forbidden sexting. If you are willing and able to discuss your cravings for this kind of sexual Interaction with your partner this can show you new perspectives. After nearly 20 years in relationship my wife and I discovered totally new and fulfilling habits. Maybe you are lucky and your girlfriend don't mind if you are sexting. Only when it's not longer forbidden you can check if it's a necessary Part of your sexuality or not.
All the best!

 

Thank you Homo Faber for your answer,
I think you're touching on some very real things (especially the issue of the "forbidden"). If you don't mind my asking, how deep have you been able to discuss these issues with your partner? Were you able to do this willingly, or after she found out something? And what status quo could you find with her afterwards? I'm pretty specific in my questions, because I feel that's the path I should be taking as well.
All the best to you too,