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Sexting strangers

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Smartman-foolsbody, Feb 22, 2023.

  1. Smartman-foolsbody

    Smartman-foolsbody Fapstronaut

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    Day 10 and I’m struggling like mad right now.

    Fighting every urge in my body to not create a dating account again and sext strangers. Used to get a crazy buzz and PMO over it. Sext literally all day. Even at work.

    I know it’s wrong and technically cheating in a way but my brain and downstairs are dying for it
     
  2. I've been there. You gotta take your goal seriously, you gotta trade your addiction with something better, you gotta figure it out. For me porn/sexting is a substitute for sex or intimacy. A way to seek comfort.
     
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  3. Smartman-foolsbody

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    It’s simply bad timing for my urges. I’ve got a young son who only goes to bed for me and I sit at bottom of his bed whilst he settles down. Tonight he’s taking a while so my mind is wandering. I’ve not had urges like this for literally months. Feel like a dog in season ahaha
     
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  4. If you can get past this, you'll be breaking a barrier down, hang in there the best you can. Every second you fight it, helps your complete recovery.
     
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  5. Smartman-foolsbody

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    Inspirational words. Luckily I’m going to bed soon as my partner will be next to me so that’ll take my mind off things. Appreciate the support. This community is amazing.
     
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  6. Hold strong brother! Everyday away from the behavior weakens it and ultimately it will get much easier. Use whatever support you can to get through it and good luck on your journey!!
     
  7. Smartman-foolsbody

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    Well with Bruce Wayne supporting me I can take on the world. Maybe one day I’ll be a sidekick ahaha Appreciate the support!!
     
  8. That's risky. An enemy coworker can take photos and report you. It's also an easy excuse for an employer or manager to wrongfully fire you and then replace you with his family or some prostitute at any time.

    This could be less risky if you are self-employed. But from personal experience, I will tell you that sexting or sexual activity during work can be equally risky if not worse. Sexting or sexual activity during self-employment can be accidentally witnessed by a client who then can publicly or secretly share a bad review of your business or service. A self-employed person's reputation and reviews are very important and intertwined with his livelihood and success because he does not have any employer or coworker to vouch for or prove his skills or work quality.

    Whether under an employer or self-employed, sexting during work can be especially risky if the work involves minors.
     
    Last edited: Feb 22, 2023
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  9. Smartman-foolsbody

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    I never took pictures at work or videos. If I received any pictures/videos I’d maybe have a cheeky glance and then wait till I was home and PMO over it.

    And I never took any pictures or videos whilst at work. Was very close. There was a few rare occasions I would be close to PMO in the toilet and tempted to film but didn’t.

    I do see your perspective though. It was risky and stupid. Luckily I only sext my partner now but it’s rare and maybe a short conversation.

    On my dinner she might text if wish you come home and f me. Or I’d tell her I’m horny and she’d maybe tease.

    In 2021/22 I was talking to a woman for ages online. Maybe 9 months. At the time I found the conversation and sexting very very addictive. To the point if I didn’t get a response for a few days or a week I would PMO over the messages and be impatiently waiting for the next saucy message.

    I know better now.
     
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  11. Peacelooker

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    Sexting and porn the same . During my addiction with porn I also went on sites and texted sexual sites without ever intending to meet people.rationalized this with not cheating in marriage , same way I rationalized porn watch because I didn’t physically touch anyone ! Either all in or not at all no porn, sexting included works best for me
     
  12. Smartman-foolsbody

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    I am so glad I stopped though. Wasted so much time and energy on sexting. It’s mainly when I’m annoyed at life. This rough patch with my fiancé is never ending.

    Cant do right or wrong sometimes and when we argue I’m close to starting up old habits but in a way I need to face what’s happening in real life.

    A secret just for nofap community incoming. If it was a perfect world. I would leave her. But we have a son so it makes everything less complicated. And I try to see the best in people which brings the worst out in my because I’m too nice and people take advantage. Guess I always put myself last
     
  13. justajustajusta

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    Same boat.

    I got so many really attractive women interested and the intense feelings of horniness and validation was just too much. Went down some dark alleys with some of them that just fried my brain.
     
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  14. Simorgh

    Simorgh Fapstronaut

    Man, you're like a brother from another mother. This describes my challenge perfectly. The urge to sext on my phone through anonymous dating apps gets much more intense when my relationship with my fiancee worsens. It happened again last night, but it was just boredom cause she was at work, which reinforces my negative emotions already present. I really struggle with this sexting thing. I almost overcome Porn addiction now my biggest challenge is to overcome sexting addiction. My last streak was 6 days, should be able to go longer

    It really lessens my feeling of self-worth and confidence cause it feels I have no control over myself the moments I give into my desire..
     
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  16. Peacelooker

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    It’s a form of porn , addicting
    I used to text thinking it’s not physically touching someone or having
    Sex so I’m not cheating on wife ! I also watched porn , been two and a half grateful months of being free of it
     
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