A girl I thought was going to turn into at least a regular dating partner if not a girlfriend told me that though we were a "fit but not the best fit" she didn't feel like moving forward because she is a free spirit and I was smothering. Set aside the reality that if a girl I've talked to for over a year before going out feels like one great dinner date and a sleepover followed by about 5 texts, 3 of which she didn't answer, was feeling smothered by my choice of a nice restaurant (I don't feel comfortable in a fancy place like this) or my holding the door open for her, etc. I'm not going to fix that. So I'm not sitting here banging on the keyboard trying to rethink things as if it is all me. I am trying to understand how my neediness and hunger for a connection comes off as smothering. I don't think I over communicated, got into stalker mode, tried to jump ahead into serious territory before it was ready. It's been 3 years since I've been in any kind of relationship. I've been on plenty of dates, some girls more than one, but nothing that counts as a dating relationship. I've had physical contact but with PIED it has not always been enjoyable and sometimes worse. And so I am certain I'm putting a needy vibe off that I don't even know is there. Anyone else putting that needy vibe out? How'd you fix it?