So many guys that are uglier than me are outdoing me

When you have autism, your audio-visual output or even simply a still image of you is enough for a negative evaluation by neurotypicals who might rate the text content of your messages favorably. The autistic - neurotypical axis is different than the ugly - beautiful axis. You can have attractive features or at least lack unattractive features and still look and sound autistic and receive the appropriate judgement.
https://www.nature.com/articles/srep40700
Sasson, N., Faso, D., Nugent, J. et al. Neurotypical Peers are Less Willing to Interact with Those with Autism based on Thin Slice Judgments. Sci Rep 7, 40700 (2017)

 

Yes looks are important but they only get you in the door, its your characteristics, personality and values that actually keep a woman attracted to you and can build a relationship further, which is something the blackpill community fails to mention. By all means improve upon your looks such as skincare, gym, regular haircuts but it may be your confidence holding you back which is something that those dudes you mentioned before had because at the end of the day its how you make a woman feel is what matters.

 

Social status matters. And also how and when you meet people. So many handsome men are dying in Ukrainian frontline right now. It's not all looks. There is also fate involved. You can be the most handsome guy in a setting, and three other dudes who are jealous of you might never invite you to the parties where girls at, so you are fucked.

 

Oh man...looksmaxxing content can be like the Sun...too much of it can kill you. If you're sexually frustrated to the point of exploding, either pay (if you can since it's illegal in most of the world and don't know or care where you live), or date someone that you're not attracted to. It sounds counterintuitive but if you really believe the Looksmaxx portion of the blackpill, you would be willing to do that to have your biological needs met.
And here's more blackpill advice: stop watching looksmax content. The content only serves you to know to where you stand on a looks level, a financial level, and a status level. Wheat Waffles, FaceandLMS, or the other people won't save you at this point. It's time to take your knowledge and use it in the field, not in Discord or wherever looksmaxxers skulk around now.
And to not get any more scrutiny than I have already, know you're area and race, etc. As screwed up as it is, that can either hinder or help you if you know those dynamics in the dating world. I'm not condoning that idea because society already does. There's a reason why skin whitening creams and double eyelid surgeries as a common cosmetic procedure.
I'm not your daddy so do with this knowledge what you will...good luck.

 

This…this is why many looksmaxxers aren’t truly blackpilled. The ideology isn’t for you. If you get matches with those women, then those women will get your needs met. That’s it.
You DEFINITELY should not be mentioning personality of all things. So what if everyone keeps talking about Elden Ring or Demon Slayer, put on a mask and play along until you find a common interest or get what you want out of it. And as a 5.5-6 guy, you’re not likely to get one night stand treatment, so stick it out. If that’s not what you want, then ditch the apps and surround yourself with those “ugly” dudes. Neurotypical average men take advantage of social circles and have active lives that involve women, usually. And they fall all the time, as will you.

And if you don’t want to date a bog witch, understandable. But if a 3 or 4 is choosing you then make a choice: have your base needs met or do without it.

Look man I’m just a coomer but I’ve come across the same reasonings and I would like to give you “pilled” advice if possible since it’s not popular in general with many people. Believe it or not but pilled content has helped me out and I’ve probably saved time and money or even my life from following the mistakes of other men learning dynamics in the West. That’s all.