I've been going out with this girl (which I know from years ago but we start talking more some months ago) and during a short trip we did with other friends we kissed and kind of crossed the friendship line. Now we've been dating and I can see in her eyes she wants more than kissing... we really get along with each other, now the problem is: I'm not sure I can have sex yet, I want the relationship to work but without sex... she's 23 I'm 28, I mean.... Basically the week ago I went with an escort to "teach me" how to do it, but I couldn't get hard, then I realized immedeitaly that I've seen too much porn and done too much masturbation, with videos, with pictures of female friends ... I mean what a sick! I want this to work, I really like her but everytime I'm with her I keep thinking when the time to have sex comes, when the opportunity shows up... will I be able to perform ? The worst is that I know that kind of thinking is just going to lead me to failure but I just can't avoid thinking into that. My confidence is on the floor right now. Maybe anyone from here has gone through a similar situation of dating during the reboot process and can give me some advice. Thank you
Take it slow brah, don't forget foreplay. Drink a little if the anxiety is too much. Ask her for a soothing massage beforehand (i.e. let her use oil, put up some candles).
Thanks for your reply. I got your point, key thing here is to be relaxed as much as possible. We are taking it slowly so that gives me time to be more days in NoFap mode and recovering before the moment comes. When it comes, well I’ll set up everything so for me to be super relaxed.
