The Lie of Porn as Stress Relief

It drains our energy and leaves us with less stamina and resilience to face the real world. We better stay away from it!

 

Absolutely! Most people say harsh things to themselves that they would never say or accept being said to anyone else.

Be as kind to yourself as you would be to a young child.

 

It's absolutely idiotic how the argument of "masturbation is good for stress relief" caught on. Yes.. it's good for stress relief, so is getting drunk or doing heroin (opiates) or benzos(sedatives). They will most definitely be a good stress relief for a couple of minutes or hours. Then you need one more hit, then you need more to get the same effect, then you need it to be functional. The classic dependence scenario.

Masturbation is both a very powerful sedative and opiate. That's exactly why it should NOT be used for "stress relief".

Stress needs to be managed by addressing the stressor and/or developing healthy ways of dealing with it. NOT by numbing yourself so you don't feel the stress. That's like saying the cure for being shot is going on pain medicine for the rest of your life so that you don't feel the pain.

This is mostly a consequence of dumb US culture that treats pain and discomfort like it's the fking Apocalypse. Feel the fucking pain and your pain tolerance will increase. Run away and your pain tolerance will decrease and you will become dependent on drugs or masturbation to cope/function.

 

Well, I've never been to the USA, so I can tell you that it's not only the US culture. I was brought up in a world where men had to be "men", showing no emotion unless it was anger or obedience. You had to be "strong". It took me years of training to undo that.

 

Being strong is not a bad thing, but yes, it's not good to be angry all the time either.... but this culture encouraging "sensitivity" to extremes is not good either. What i meant with dumb US culture (what gets imported all over Western world) is that people act like pain or discomfort is the most horrible thing and it needs to be ignored/suppressed/medicated. Basically that everyone became so emotionally and physically weak.

 

Someone once asked me, "How can you expect someone to love you if you don't love yourself?"

Anyway, if you're going to do the right thing and treat other people well, you need to practice on yourself first.

 

My friend, read this article : 6 years clean rebooting (Google this!, you will get a nofap article).
Read it, it will surely help!

 

Yes the same with any bad habit we've developed to deal with stress (Rather than things that truly re-energize)
drugs/alcohol/videogame addiction - all the same effect- it numbs us to whatever we're dealing with which is like procrastination rather than facing it. A healthy stress relief would be relaxation exercises or physical exercise or hobbies that produce results and make you feel refreshed and better...

 

I'm based in Japan, and it's a collectivist culture where everyone thinks about the good of the community before thinking about themselves first. They're pretty modest too; you'll hardly see any bikini-clad women or men wearing speedos at the beach, for an example. So imagine my surprise when I found out about their extremely lax attitude towards porn.

Porn magazine racks are the first thing you see when you step into most convenience stores. There's always a guy just standing there perusing it, and no one bats an eye. I've spoken to a few young Japanese men in order to gauge their thoughts on porn, and all of them said that they considered it a "necessity". "Men need to relieve themselves from time to time", one of them reasoned. He didn't have any scientific evidence to back up this statement, of course.

It's no wonder that Japan is undergoing a population crisis right now. The average age is 46 and the government are desperately trying to recruit foreigners to make up for a decreasing workforce and ageing population.

 

I wish I would've been this thoughtful and mature when I was 22. I was to busy partying and living for myself.

 

The fact you recognize this at age 22 is quite admirable. I am pretty sure I was at least in my early to mid 30s before I was cognizant that I was using PMO to escape from or mask stress. Recognizing that as an internal lie is an even bigger accomplishment.

 

I'm available to fill the population gap! But yeah, the Japanese porn thing can be a little odd.

 

I read that in an article when I was 16. Probably a warning sign to my subconscious. Only if I knew nofap at 16. Damn.

 

It sounds like the japanese are jacking off to porn instead of having sex.

 

That's exactly what is happening. Man, this addiction is scary lul.

 

Porn is definitely a factor among a number of other reasons. The fact is that most young Japanese men simply prefer to jack off and relieve themselves rather than trying to forge an intimate relationship with someone else. They're a little too career-oriented, and don't want to "waste" time by being responsible for someone else.