This new girl might be really good for me.

If anything just continue to get to know each other. Let things progress naturally. Good luck bro!

 

I thought about responding to your thread before, but I might as well now. First of all, I think a great way to know a girl such as her is to understand and have empathy, not sympathy, for what she's been through. I've known a few female friends who have been treated poorly, abused, and left behind. However, I try to understand their pain because I've experienced the same heartache as they did.

You have to ask yourself: What are your real intentions with this girl? It's something I've learned in the past by making a huge mistake, but coming from you, you may already know the answer a little differently. Taking the time to acknowledge those who have gone through a lot is tough, and you must have a great deal of patience, understanding, and commitment if you really wanna keep her. Do you think this is a long term relationship or something temporary? Are you willing to put up with her and slowly, slowly renew her trust in guys that have treated her wrong?

I say this because I've hurt a girl once, and as the saying goes: Karma is a bitch. Now that I know what it's like to be hurt, I have more sympathy when talking to girls who have been through the same thing. One thing I do know for sure is this: Never make a girl cry, especially when she's been hurt before. If you cannot accept this, then this is not the relationship for you. It's just more work because of the circumstances.

I don't know how far your relationship with her has been going on, but just be careful. I know what it's like to have that feeling when you realize there's that one girl who makes you feel special. I've had that too, and she obviously had the same experiences that I've had. Unfortunately, she chose a guy who she barely knew. It's funny how things turn up like that. Anyways, I just think it's better to understand a girl when you know what it's like to be in their shoes. I've failed to take care of that girl I left behind because of selfishness, but hopefully, you'll have better luck with your girl.

 

I had sex with a girl from my gym class after under two weeks. We had chemistry n stuff but 2 days later she said too fast and old relationship was a disaster. Saw her one more time n that was it. Be careful u dont rush sex. If u genuinely care bout her itl happen by itself.

 

"Sex without love is like a glorified masturbation" I dont know who said this but think it deeply man and enjoy the process like a movie

 

@HankyHank you might be able to pump and dump... But thats called being a cold calculating sexual terminator.... Most of us arent robots. Consider how bad u can hurt q girl who actualy likes you? Then she finds out u lied and used her for sex..... Hmmm. Sick subhuman sociopathy.

 

You have to be really careful about the sex thing. From my point of view (I'm Catholic), the idea of any sex in a relationship before marriage is absurd. When you make sex an essential part of your relationship you don't learn to truly love the person simply for who they are, and if you don't marry them and you're sleeping with them it's a lie. (The act says "I will love you forever" and when you break up it's proven false.) Plus it's so hard to make sure (in your own mind) that your intentions aren't just to have the pleasure of sex.

So IMO sex should just be a bonus, once you're married. Not something the relationship is founded on. Otherwise it's just cheapened and not really valued. And then you don't really value the person the way you should.

 

If you live in America, getting married is a bad idea because your wife can divorce you any time and take half your wealth.

 

@Alyosha I believe i have solved the equasion regarding the many different views and desires floating around sexual immorality and ita relationship with and exluding religion; even for an atheist the sexuality cause serves a SACRED purpose. Any spiritualist knows this is a fact. In fact many ancient paganisms were very serious about sex.

Personally i was full christian and i am now 50-50 spiritualist too. There is a great deal of good things from the bible easily in line with buddism or hinduism.

Regardless what u believe keeping the most spécial and powerful gift we have sacred is the most important thing we can do. When men and women learn to objectify eachother the results are always the same.

 

Yeah I get it. Most of the posts on this thread is about sex...apparently. That's what fucks it up in the first place. For example, I had a female friend who moved to Florida years ago. All she wanted was a guy to treat her right, but because she never had the love of a father, she thought that finding love within a man would be a good idea. Guess what? Every guy who dated her wanted the same thing: SEX. Even I almost went down that path, but it's not all about sex. Okay? Understand the girl for once. You know?

 

Sexual energy is creative energy. It is indeed sacred, life force energy. Without it there can be no passion, no feeling, and no real intelligence.

 

@Namekian23 yeah i hate this all too common mentality. Its actually banal boring to hear now....i blame media porn and destruction of family unit. Just a disgusting nightmare from hell.

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I had a p craving saturday. I also edged w/o p before turning my pc on. I hadnt used it for weeks actually, and i just turned it on to play a game. Well anyways i saw my porn 1 thing to Nother n i watched it. Its my old favorite porn. I was struggling watching a bunch of really sexy girls i like getting.... Penetrated pov doggy my favorite.... U know what though?! I didnt even get hard! I actuLly thought wow poor girls feel bad for them, this is disgusting. I trained myself for this without knowing. I member my ex girl and a documentary and i thought of these women as people with feelings; mentL heLth problem of abuse! And i couldnt even get harx to my old favorite porn..... I was reallt really impressed with that.

So my point is simple. Once our society objectifies women, and men too, then, when we no longer see them as people with feelings; that is the time for the porn parasite to infect. Therefore porn is not the cause! But a symptom of our civilizations sickness.

 

@Son_of_Iroquois heh wow u are right. Passion comes from sex energy too! Ill remembré that. Thx dude

 

Surely this is trolling. You blatantly accused this guy of something he didn't do... Instead he said something quite the opposite! What's up with you Gladiatori?

 

@NoBrainer nothing is up.

He deleted his original comment was about sleepin with women.

If he deleted and reported that is the nost wimpy pathetic thing.

 

As it would seem, his "original comment" is not in this thread... What's up with that then?

No, nothing has been reported. I could not help but noticing your 'response' to HankyHank, given what he has posted in his comment.

 

Musta been to cover his trail

 

I'm able to see edited posts and deleted posts, and I have seen no evidence of any of that. Was it perhaps written on another thread?