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Thoughts... oh.. the power of them! Tips on controlling them.

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Ronald, Oct 25, 2014.

  1. Oct 25, 2014 #1
    Ronald

    Ronald Fapstronaut

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    So stuck in a loop... as per usual, during the week can stay totally clean, deal with standard social anxiety issues, which did improve eventually at the end of the week. Then went out last night drinking, going to a gathering, it ended up being a bit shit thanks to my stupid thoughts, and it felt people were ignoring me so I decided to leave and was in a shitty mood for hours and hours, then woke up driven by bad self-defeating thoughts and then jerked off in front of a screen. So I've PMO'd twice already today.

    So where to start from, I always think I have a good plan on how to solve this, but then my thoughts just kill the motivation. The feelings of rejection, unworthiness combined with wanting human connection on a social level, and also an intimate level I'm guessing is what's going on here.

    So I keep having defeating thoughts such as no one likes me, I'm not special enough to attract the opposite sex, so what's the point in trying to give up porn.

    It's a loop of saying fuck you to the world, why aren't I good enough for you, fine I can be accepted by watching porn, get my brain infused with dopamine and then I can hide away from life.

    This period of thoughts lasts for a short time period and then more clear helpful thoughts come along, and then the feeling of regret will come along soon accompanied by thoughts such as that I am a fool, why do I keep looking at porn etc.

    I don't know how people actually reboot and get porn out of their life at the moment seriously.

    Has anyone else had trouble dealing with their thoughts? If so and you conquered them what do you do to help maintain and regulate positive thoughts?

    Thanks for reading friends

    Ronald
     
    Ronald, Oct 25, 2014
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  2. Oct 25, 2014 #2
    CasualMe95

    CasualMe95 Guest

    I know where you are and how it feels. You just feel like you wanna get away from there and be alone. Pretty normal at your stage. Happened to me tons of times.

    And that people get annoyed by you. Well I tend to not show anything out and only keep it to myself to minimize the attention from others.

    Not feel attractive, special, feelings on giving up porn. Oh god haha :p like oyu took the words out of my brain. Its extremely common! happens to everyone. And I do mean EVERYONE.

    Why you can't watch porn? noone said that you "can't". It you want, by all means! go ahead and watch. But think about it. Are our brains really designed to handle the EXTREME amount of sexual attention?
    On a porn sire, or why not several. You go from one window to the next, most likely without finishing the one you started on. Just to get your highest kick.
    And close your eyes and imagine yourself doing the same thing in real life. Seeing people fucking everywhere. Wouldn't you feel abit strange? feeling that something is wrong?
    I would for sure!

    Theres a great video on youtube called Porn Brain. He explains this quite well. GO and watch it! its not anything sexual to watch. Of course by the name it has to do with sex and porn. BUt he explains it in a quite interesting way.

    HOw to deal with thoughts, Thats a good question. Honestly it took me about a year to figure it out. My advice to you: Just walk through them. let them come up in your brain and fade. Nothing more, now continue with whatever you were doing.

    Hope I helped. Any more questions just ask! cheers!
     
    CasualMe95, Oct 25, 2014
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