Hey everyone.. glad I put myself here. Everyone here has their own origin story.. well here's mine. I've been a chronic fapper for as long as I can remember doing it. Countless wasted hours and nothing to show it. The only memory I really have from it is the first time I did it at 12 when I got a headache and was really scared. When I was a teenager, everyone used to joke around about it, "How often do you wank?" and most people would say every now and then. I would say, almost proudly, that I did it 4 or 5 times a week. That was from about 15 years old. I can say that the only thing that changed in the last 8 years is that it got worse. Wake up with morning wood, might as well use it. Maybe throughout the day too, cause I'm feeling antsy. Maybe twice. And then when I get into bed to 'help' me sleep. Minimum of an hour per day wasted, because you just need to find the 'perfect' thing to end it. It's not just the time, it's the porn. It gets more and more depraved over the years. I'm ashamed of what it's become. I don't even like it.. I don't understand it, but I need it to get myself off. That's why I'm here right now, it needs to stop. I'm an otherwise normal guy. It doesn't impact my work, only my free time. I'll never turn down an event or something to get myself off - I've always drawn the line there. My hobbies and my plans to better myself just go out the window once I put my hand on it. I'm sorry about the wall of text. I just need to get it off my chest. I nearly joined in on this over a year and a half ago, but I decided it wasn't that bad and I could control it. But nothing improved. So I'm here now, putting myself out here and making a step in the right direction. If anyone is interested in being my accountability partner, reply below! I'm a sucker for not letting people down so I think it'll be a great help for me. Just some details about me - I'm Male, 23 and I live in NSW Australia. I in the sciences at University. I'd prefer someone with a similar time zone but it's not a huge deal. Thanks for reading, timnftaa.
Hey @timnftaa , I'm just a normal ordinary member. No moderator super powers and no special insite. I share my ESH (Experience, Strength and Hope) of what works for me. Just another warm welcome and a heart felt hello. This community has helped me so much. What worked for me was "working" it. It took hard work for me to complete a hard reboot (No pmo) for 120 days, then move into a Sex Positive mode. First, reading the literature published by NoFap itself along with reading journals. Then, doing the work. Writing in my journal and replying to introductions and other's journals. Finally, but not least, getting involved with the fellowship. I found it on the forums, but also in people's profiles. The forums tend to be longer posts, where the profiles tend to be more "conversational". That is what has worked for me. I like to remind myself that this community was here waiting for me with the lights on when I arrived. Now, I have to do my best to be there when someone comes to the community. Then, watch this video: --> L PS - One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program. I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work. Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few: @Iron Patience - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155794/ --- @ludwig525 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155658/ --- @PatrickR - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139570/ --- @GeeWhizz - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/152127/ --- @Sunshadow - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/
Thank you to everyone who replied, especially Septimus and Stopthemusic. I read the links in your signatures about your thoughts and experiences and they were very helpful to me.
