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Trauma due to PIED

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Le 18, Dec 22, 2020.

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  1. Dec 22, 2020 #1
    Le 18

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    Hello guys. I am 17 years old soon to be 18 and I have PIED. I dont want to waste anybodys time and will start now telling my problem.

    About a year ago I had my first kiss with my ex (gf at the time) and I wanted to have sex with her that day but could not get hard. I am a virgin and had no experience with sex so I did not know what to expect or what to do but well, after 20 minutes of kissing I suddenly stoped and asked how it was. After she answerd, she checked her phone and said she had to go. Relationship went downhill and I used porn to hide the pain. We speed it up one month and she broke up with me.

    I still miss what we had and feel like I could have done it better in the bed. Every time I relapse my mind takes my back to that moment and I think that thats a trauma that I havent taken care of.

    For you guys that discovered your PIED like me or some kind of other sexual dysfunction in bed. How have you guys dealed with it? For me its a very sad memory and dont really know hot to deal with it.
     
    Le 18, Dec 22, 2020
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  2. Feb 10, 2021 #2
    Uncle_Iroh

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    It's what it is, you can't live without that moment anymore but you needn't let it rule who you are to become and who you are as a person and sexually. It's all about taking time away from lust, giving your mind to the moment and seeing what comes next with each second. It's the same when it comes to sex, if you go into a sexual encounter worried (I know it's hard not to, trust me on that) you will not become erect. It's definitely PIED you have, if you believe that your porn use has affected how you sexually think and interact, but without a calm level head it will easily become AIED (Anxiety Induced ED), which will make you still think you are suffering with PIED. You will have PIED until you stay away from porn, that's fact, but it may take, weeks, months or even year for it to return so know you're in this for the long haul, but don't allow worry to take over as it will just keep you suffering longer.
     
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  3. Feb 11, 2021 #3
    whathaveidone88

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    I had a similar experience with the last gal I tried dating (also the experience that finally led me to learning/accepting that I have PIED). I can still see the disappointed look on her face once we both realized that I wasn't gonna be able to get it up. Like you, I got dumped. It's an awful memory and I feel your pain. However, I'm glad to feel that way because it motivates me to keep moving forward and growing as a human being. My best advice would be to try not to focus on sexuality too much. It's extremely difficult in the beginning but it gets better with time and good habits. Luckily for you, you're really young and you caught onto your issue earlier than most. I'm almost 33 and wish I would've been in your position when I was 18. I would just stick with nofap in whatever mode you find most helpful to your specific situation/goals. Try to build a yourself into a person that you feel comfortable sharing with others. Anxiety will definitely slow your recovery down so addressing any underlying issues with depression/anxiety is pretty important.

    Looks like you made this post a couple of months ago. How are feeling now? Still doing nofap?
     
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