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Trouble of distinguishing right and wrong

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by ClearAsMud(Al), Aug 2, 2018.

  1. I feel that I'm supposed to act a certain way around women. But I feel this 'expected' (courteous, chivalrous etc) way is wrong. My headspace is currently challenging and probably dangerous.
     
  2. That's probably the porn mind trying to convince you what is right is wrong. Justifying your thoughts and behaviors.
     
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  3. Reverent

    Reverent Fapstronaut

    You know the Boy Scouts of America just let girls in. If you want to let girls into your life follow an adaptation of the Scout Law in questioning how to behave around them.

    Are your being trustworthy? Do you speak with honesty and have no ulterior motives for your behavior?

    Are you loyal? Do you stick to what makes you, you? Do you do what you say you're going to do, and don't be a flake?

    It is never inappropriate to be helpful. Anyone could use a hand.

    Being friendly is no different whether with a male or female. Treat others with respect and as you'd like to be treated.

    It is never wrong to have manners and be courteous. Please ,Thank You and You're Welcome go a long way.

    Guinine kindness is appropriate for all genders and all ages. If you behave with only a motive to be kind you will never have to second guess your heart. Your intentions were pure, and that's all that matters irrespective of the outcome.

    Don't try and be the 'Bad boy" you think a girl wants. Be yourself. Be Obedient to the laws, rules and norms that make you respectable.

    Cheerful people are always more pleasent to be around. If your goal is to attract or interact with women, most would rather be lifted by optimism.

    Don't be a cheapskate. It wreaks of lack of self confidence. Also don't go beyond your means or spend big to impress her. Be thrifty in your interactions.

    You don't have to be a hero to be brave. But it does take courage to put yourself out there from time to time. Be vulnerable once in a while, try new things. Grow. And always stand up for right in regards to respecting a lady.

    How do you smell? Do you even know? Personal care, hygiene, and cleanliness are very important to a gal, and should be to you too. A haircut, a nice colonge, non sloppy dirty clothes presents your best self. Also have a clean mind and mouth. Why be gross of inappropriate around women? Lighten up on the vulgarity.

    Reverent, my personal favorite. Stand for something greater than yourself. Show appreciation always. Be calm, deliberate, in control. Do not be volatile or reactive. Know yourself. Love, listen, live.

    Best of luck. Hope this helps.
     
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  4. There is no secret to talking to women. Just talk to them like anyone else. Be respectful, be yourself,


    just don't be a creep.
     

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