Trying to make sense of this

I first experienced ED (PIED?) at 20 years old where I couldn't get it up with a bunch of girls & didn't have any random erections or MW during the day. Fast forward a year and I got into a relationship which lasted 3/4years. During that relationship, it was as if the ED never existed, erections were completely normal and I was left confused how I went from ED back to normal just by being in a relationship.

Fast forward even further to August 2020 and that relationship ended. As soon as the relationship ended I fell straight back to having ED (porn habits didn't change during/post relationship). I tried hooking up with several girls that same month but had consistent ED. Caught up with my gf (ex) twice that month but was rock hard again?!

I started nofap in June, so two months before the breakup, so to date I'm around 140+ days nofap, however I mainly stopped counting days as I don't intend on going back.

MY QUESTION IS:
How on earth did my brain beat ED during a relationship. Did my brain wire my girlfriend the same way it did to porn, and that it said anything other than my gf or porn results in ED? I had testosterone tests at the beginning of the relationship and nothing abnormal was found, and I'm a healthy and fit 25 year old.

After being 140+ days I've had some occasional but rare MW and some wet dreams, but other than that I still have ED with this new girl i'm talking to and don't experience erections during the day at all.

 

Hey guys, thanks for your comments. Normally I would agree with you both. However, the fact I can't get erections randomly during the day & zero libido makes me think it can't be performance anxiety related. I'm fairly confident around girls and have even had repeat meet-ups and got to know the girls more to try and eliminate the theory that my ED is being caused by performance anxiety.

 

Nutella: I have tried them. They work when I'm alone, but refuse to work when I'm with a girl. WHICH, I know supports your suggestion of the issue being P.A related. I guess there may be a slight element of P.A, however I really don't believe its the underlying cause. I haven't watched P in 140+ days, but from what I can recall I would get hard to P or my gf but wouldn't get erections during the day. I also sometimes M'd semi erect with P (which I've seen other PIED suffers experience). I guess I'm trying to narrow down exactly what the issue is. If it truly is P.A that probably concerns me more, as I don't know how to treat it. Whereas if it is PIED, I already feel like it is easy for me to refrain from PMO.

TantraMan: To be honest I haven't really tried in the 140 days I've been PMO free. However before starting I used to be able to get erections by doing that, however most of the time it would be with P. Most of the girls I've been with in the last few months I've had a pill, which would work on the drive over to their house, but die/semi die as soon as we hooked up -.-