*This topic was originally posted a few seconds ago on http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/ but since it may be of interest to many here I have decided to create and mantain both
I'm posting this here because this is the first site recommended on YBOP, which appeared as a savior to me. Also this forum appears to me as more "technical" than the nofap. And do please forgive any grammar error that may occur, since English is not my native language and I never had any lessons on that.
And more important: I don't see a lot of discussion about the reason behind the "cuckold" porn trend that is booming recently, and when I do see some discussion it all involves crazy, convoluted theories involving Freud, evolution, etc etc, and they all most appear out of nowhere.
And my idea is pretty much simple, and I firmly believe it explains both the "booming" of cuckold fetish and the reason why someone will fell attracted to it, and also bring it to real life, living this fetish and having his life so entwined by it as to describe it his "lifestyle". And I never saw anything as my theory. And believe me, I know very well how to search.
And what is this simple reason? Porn addiction. Simple as that. But with some "siren calls" that empowers it, not existent on other fetishes.
What would these "siren calls" be?
1) An answer and an escape route to copulatory impotency (gets hard to porn, but fails to perform in a real life situation). Even if one does not have it, he may be on the initial stages, where he gets an erection in sex but the act itself does not provide that much pleasure as solitary masturbation. So, if you accept becoming a cuckold, you will get rid of this stress and anxiety for performance. And you do that by having in real life something you are already craving while masturbating! I once saw on a cuckold forum a husband stating that sex is not that good as masturbation, insinuating that sex is overrated. This person sadly failed to see that it is in fact his addiction that caused this scenario.
2) felling of inadequacy. You may even be handsome and fit as a male porn star, but with your difficult in performance you will fell some (or a lot) inadequacy. If you are not handsome and fit, that is yet another reason. The penis size can come in this explanation as well. And this felling of inadequacy behaves like a vicious cycle of a self-fulfilling prophecy: the more you fail, the more inadequacy you will fill ( which will make the siren call for surrendering yet more appealing), which will bring you to fell yet more inadequate, which will make you fail even more, and on and on (no wonder why so many advanced cuckolding ends with "sissy" and "feminilization"!)
3) You will be living with a porn star. That's great is it not? Instead of a regular girl you will be with a goddess such as those that have been living in your moments in front of the computer. the biggest problem with that is that you desire this not because you dream to be with a porn star "Per si", but because what you are trying to do is something much more perfidious: Bringing the porn to the real life. Which brings us to the next reason...
4) The ultimate reason: You are trying to bring porn to the real life. That is utmost insidious, it is the porn leaving the real of fantasy and the virtual world of computer and internet and invading your real life. Like a monster coming literally out of the screen of a terror movie and haunting you for the rest of your life. You no longer please yourself only by having good old fashioned sex with your woman, you need her to wear the costume of a porn star, to do the things you see on porn. You no longer fell sexually attracted to her as human being, but as a vessel to the incarnation of your virtual godessess. It is the ultimate act of surrendering to your fantasy and living in it.
5) a complement of the previous reason: Now you get to produce original material for your masturbation. Devastating when you come to realize: you are using your woman to produce material that will fuel your compulsive addiction. But that is true! An important and broadly disseminated part of the cuck scene is that the husband will "document" everything, by pictures and videos. Most times not even participating in the sex act itself, he will only watch and document. There are many videos on porn sites that even show the husband roaming the room taking pictures with a camera, which means he was so devoted to this that he employed two cameras at once: One stay on top of an object to film, other on his hand taking pictures (sometimes even going so far as to employ another person just to video the act). Why so much energy and dedication employed to document the wholly thing? I don't think I need to tell you why at this moment. But sometimes, the cuckold will not document that disciplined, instead he will sit and masturbate. The ultimate masturbation act, having your woman behaving like porn so you can watch a real thing instead of a screen.
I think this pretty much summarizes the wholly thing. And there are some things that help my theory.
First: Cuckold fetish is on the rise. It was virtually non-existent some years ago. I would even go so far as to say that, in the specific way which I described it, it was literally non-existent before internet. I remember that in my early days of internet porn usage, the days of dial-up connection, I never crossed a sub-genre of porn called cuckold. I can remember seeing sites that had it all organized: Foot, mature, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transwoman, bizarre etc... but not cuckold. And now they are everywhere. I can even be so bold as to say that if this article where more than just my thoughts on the subject, where it elaborate with loads of research, we could produce a graph showing that cuckold porn rises on the same pace as internet access and speed.
Another thing is that many fetishes that are used as "shocking material" to stimulate orgasm in masturbation may have increased with internet accessibility, but they always existed even before internet. For example, gay porn is used by many straight men for this socking and novelty value in stimulation, but gay have existed as long as mankind. the same with other fetishes: transwomen existed far before internet, foot fetish as well, and so it goes. But the cuckold scene seems to appear and to increase synchronously with the internet accessibility. There may be some people that had the fetish of being cuckolded before the internet, but I suspect they where far too few back then, like people that have very unusual fetishes, a very small percentage of the population (or else why would the porn industry fail to see this niche, and why would this niche grow so rapidly at the present?), and their desires and behavior being a little different than the porn-induced cuckold. In short, the "natural" cuckold fells attracted in the act of being cuckolded, it is an unusual fetish that must be developed whether he lives in an internet environment or not. By contrast, the porn-induced cuckold fells more attracted to the idea of his girl becoming like a porn star, the cuckold itself is more a consequence of that, an effect of her being promiscuous, and it only develops later, because of porn. He would not have this fetish if he lived on an era/place without internet.
How come I realized all that? As some of you may have already guessed, from personal experience. I am on the initial stages of the cuckold effect, already made my long term (4 years) girlfriend have sex with another guys. But I never had this fetish, quite the contrary, I was very repulsed by that idea. It appeared recently, after more than a decade of heavy porn usage, and while suffering a middle copulatory impotence, which revolves around being able to perform ONLY with a girl I have extreme intimacy (in this case, only my girlfriend), failing with all others no matter how beautiful. And even with my girlfriend, I had to relay heavily on imagination, imagining porn scenes in order to maintain an erection during intercourse. It was only a little jump before imagining my girl being those porn stars doing what they do. I was stopping employing my imagination in bed to make them reality. She was to become what I was imagining. And most times where we made "menage a trois" (I, her and one more guy) wasn't that great at the time, many times it was much worse than being only with her. But it did provide plenty of fuel to further sexual acts with her. In short: The actual cuckolding wasn't sexy, but the real sex, after the cuckolding, was because of this fuel, where I could see her as a true porn star and talk during the sex about what she had done, and that being all real.
And in case someone is wondering what are the reasons that make the woman accept such a life, this is a no brainer. Woman enjoy sex the same way man do. What you are presenting her is the rare opportunity of her doing sex with loads of guys of her choosing, without it being a problem. In short, a dream life. Wouldn't most men live in a dream with it where the opposite (provided they are not suffering from porn ED, that is!) ?
I'm posting this here because this is the first site recommended on YBOP, which appeared as a savior to me. Also this forum appears to me as more "technical" than the nofap. And do please forgive any grammar error that may occur, since English is not my native language and I never had any lessons on that.
And more important: I don't see a lot of discussion about the reason behind the "cuckold" porn trend that is booming recently, and when I do see some discussion it all involves crazy, convoluted theories involving Freud, evolution, etc etc, and they all most appear out of nowhere.
And my idea is pretty much simple, and I firmly believe it explains both the "booming" of cuckold fetish and the reason why someone will fell attracted to it, and also bring it to real life, living this fetish and having his life so entwined by it as to describe it his "lifestyle". And I never saw anything as my theory. And believe me, I know very well how to search.
And what is this simple reason? Porn addiction. Simple as that. But with some "siren calls" that empowers it, not existent on other fetishes.
What would these "siren calls" be?
1) An answer and an escape route to copulatory impotency (gets hard to porn, but fails to perform in a real life situation). Even if one does not have it, he may be on the initial stages, where he gets an erection in sex but the act itself does not provide that much pleasure as solitary masturbation. So, if you accept becoming a cuckold, you will get rid of this stress and anxiety for performance. And you do that by having in real life something you are already craving while masturbating! I once saw on a cuckold forum a husband stating that sex is not that good as masturbation, insinuating that sex is overrated. This person sadly failed to see that it is in fact his addiction that caused this scenario.
2) felling of inadequacy. You may even be handsome and fit as a male porn star, but with your difficult in performance you will fell some (or a lot) inadequacy. If you are not handsome and fit, that is yet another reason. The penis size can come in this explanation as well. And this felling of inadequacy behaves like a vicious cycle of a self-fulfilling prophecy: the more you fail, the more inadequacy you will fill ( which will make the siren call for surrendering yet more appealing), which will bring you to fell yet more inadequate, which will make you fail even more, and on and on (no wonder why so many advanced cuckolding ends with "sissy" and "feminilization"!)
3) You will be living with a porn star. That's great is it not? Instead of a regular girl you will be with a goddess such as those that have been living in your moments in front of the computer. the biggest problem with that is that you desire this not because you dream to be with a porn star "Per si", but because what you are trying to do is something much more perfidious: Bringing the porn to the real life. Which brings us to the next reason...
4) The ultimate reason: You are trying to bring porn to the real life. That is utmost insidious, it is the porn leaving the real of fantasy and the virtual world of computer and internet and invading your real life. Like a monster coming literally out of the screen of a terror movie and haunting you for the rest of your life. You no longer please yourself only by having good old fashioned sex with your woman, you need her to wear the costume of a porn star, to do the things you see on porn. You no longer fell sexually attracted to her as human being, but as a vessel to the incarnation of your virtual godessess. It is the ultimate act of surrendering to your fantasy and living in it.
5) a complement of the previous reason: Now you get to produce original material for your masturbation. Devastating when you come to realize: you are using your woman to produce material that will fuel your compulsive addiction. But that is true! An important and broadly disseminated part of the cuck scene is that the husband will "document" everything, by pictures and videos. Most times not even participating in the sex act itself, he will only watch and document. There are many videos on porn sites that even show the husband roaming the room taking pictures with a camera, which means he was so devoted to this that he employed two cameras at once: One stay on top of an object to film, other on his hand taking pictures (sometimes even going so far as to employ another person just to video the act). Why so much energy and dedication employed to document the wholly thing? I don't think I need to tell you why at this moment. But sometimes, the cuckold will not document that disciplined, instead he will sit and masturbate. The ultimate masturbation act, having your woman behaving like porn so you can watch a real thing instead of a screen.
I think this pretty much summarizes the wholly thing. And there are some things that help my theory.
First: Cuckold fetish is on the rise. It was virtually non-existent some years ago. I would even go so far as to say that, in the specific way which I described it, it was literally non-existent before internet. I remember that in my early days of internet porn usage, the days of dial-up connection, I never crossed a sub-genre of porn called cuckold. I can remember seeing sites that had it all organized: Foot, mature, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transwoman, bizarre etc... but not cuckold. And now they are everywhere. I can even be so bold as to say that if this article where more than just my thoughts on the subject, where it elaborate with loads of research, we could produce a graph showing that cuckold porn rises on the same pace as internet access and speed.
Another thing is that many fetishes that are used as "shocking material" to stimulate orgasm in masturbation may have increased with internet accessibility, but they always existed even before internet. For example, gay porn is used by many straight men for this socking and novelty value in stimulation, but gay have existed as long as mankind. the same with other fetishes: transwomen existed far before internet, foot fetish as well, and so it goes. But the cuckold scene seems to appear and to increase synchronously with the internet accessibility. There may be some people that had the fetish of being cuckolded before the internet, but I suspect they where far too few back then, like people that have very unusual fetishes, a very small percentage of the population (or else why would the porn industry fail to see this niche, and why would this niche grow so rapidly at the present?), and their desires and behavior being a little different than the porn-induced cuckold. In short, the "natural" cuckold fells attracted in the act of being cuckolded, it is an unusual fetish that must be developed whether he lives in an internet environment or not. By contrast, the porn-induced cuckold fells more attracted to the idea of his girl becoming like a porn star, the cuckold itself is more a consequence of that, an effect of her being promiscuous, and it only develops later, because of porn. He would not have this fetish if he lived on an era/place without internet.
How come I realized all that? As some of you may have already guessed, from personal experience. I am on the initial stages of the cuckold effect, already made my long term (4 years) girlfriend have sex with another guys. But I never had this fetish, quite the contrary, I was very repulsed by that idea. It appeared recently, after more than a decade of heavy porn usage, and while suffering a middle copulatory impotence, which revolves around being able to perform ONLY with a girl I have extreme intimacy (in this case, only my girlfriend), failing with all others no matter how beautiful. And even with my girlfriend, I had to relay heavily on imagination, imagining porn scenes in order to maintain an erection during intercourse. It was only a little jump before imagining my girl being those porn stars doing what they do. I was stopping employing my imagination in bed to make them reality. She was to become what I was imagining. And most times where we made "menage a trois" (I, her and one more guy) wasn't that great at the time, many times it was much worse than being only with her. But it did provide plenty of fuel to further sexual acts with her. In short: The actual cuckolding wasn't sexy, but the real sex, after the cuckolding, was because of this fuel, where I could see her as a true porn star and talk during the sex about what she had done, and that being all real.
And in case someone is wondering what are the reasons that make the woman accept such a life, this is a no brainer. Woman enjoy sex the same way man do. What you are presenting her is the rare opportunity of her doing sex with loads of guys of her choosing, without it being a problem. In short, a dream life. Wouldn't most men live in a dream with it where the opposite (provided they are not suffering from porn ED, that is!) ?
