Unconventional PMO method still tempts me

Where's the "why does it matter" option?

Probability says it was a dude but even if it was all legit, how does any of it help you? You're still getting off on it regardless of who is typing at the other end.

 

Officially, there's no way to know for sure. Unofficially, if it sounds "too good to be true" and hits your kink buttons perfectly, it's probably a catfish.

I've spent inordinate amounts of time and money studying fiction. I've studied how to write fiction, what motivates us to produce and consume fiction, how to identify fiction, how truth becomes fiction, how fiction becomes truth, it goes on and on. There's no way to know what the truth is. It could be this was a male user that likes fantasizing about being a woman in this bonkers lifestyle. It could be a female user that likes fantasizing, but doesn't actually have a desire to make it happen in real life, or has tried and isn't able to make it happen in real life because in real life, sex is risky and this particular kind of sex is very risky. This kind of person, a woman who is okay with being a third wheel, does exist but is called a "unicorn" because they are very rare. Furthermore, they tend to mess up relationships or get messed up themselves because, despite what porn influenced pop culture insists, it's never "just sex." Sex is biologically designed to bond people. I had a whole rant on this relatively recently, just look at my history... actually here you go, you're welcome. Of course I could be wrong, I could always be wrong, but this is my semi-informed opinion.
Regardless, having studied oratory performance, there is a 100% chance that, at minimum, details were embellished and/or entirely fabricated, customized exactly for you, because you responded positively to similar content in this person's stories. There's a very high chance the entire thing is a lie, and a 100% chance at least some of it, the juiciest, "best" parts, are lies.

A more important detail you have to wrestle with is why this particular fantasy is attractive to you. What about it is it that draws you? Then, I almost guarantee (have you noticed I don't like committing?), the reality doesn't match the fantasy. It's not that this person is tricking you about their exploits, it's that Porn in general is helping you trick yourself about what sex is and what is important in life. The kind of sex this person described to you isn't actually good. Not, at least, relative to the kind of sex you could have. It sounds wild and free and fun and amazing and validating, but it's like sugar. Sugar mixed with cocaine. It is fun, but it's unsustainable and bad for you in the long run. The fantasy is an escape, and the lifestyle this person described, even if it is true (because it theoretically could exist, just doesn't as often as people claim and usually falls apart anyway), is also an escape. Good sex is just a single component is a good relationship, and that, I say as a fiction writer who has spent inordinate amounts of time and money studying fiction, is so good it's impossible to describe. That is a statement I am willing to commit to. I know it doesn't sound possible, because I'm also a porn addict, I know how intoxicating porn is and how that particular fantasy is, but relationship sex as intended is better, and I also know that from experience.

 

weather it was a girl or a guy it is in the past now focus on Nofap and a woman will come around that's right for you when you are ready.

 

Sounds like a catfish to me, and if you need to ask whether or not something counts as a setback/relapse then you already know the answer

 

If it sounds too saucy to be true, then probably isn't true

 

Probably a guy, but I'd give it equally high odds that it could have been an attention-seeking female bullshitting you. They do exist, and usually fly some sort of borderline personality flag.

By no interpretation do I believe the stories to be true. Nobody living that wild of a life is spending their evenings talking to strangers online.