Wait, I'm NOT a PMO addict, I'm a Sex Addict What Now?

I was speaking very literally, as in I was discontent in the relationship and looked elsewhere for pleasure.

But you're right - low self-esteem played a big part in staying in relationships when I wasn't happy; but rather than be an adult and leave, I instead found it easier to sneak about, and in time that too became a part of the "fix".

 

Yes I know and I think I understood you right in the first place.

I am like you. And I found that at times when if I have more faith in myself, then I'm also more faithful to others.

The faith in ourselves is our core. It's the root of everything.

 

You can get rid of your craving for sex. Your sex addiction is likely to cause a negative impact on several areas of your life. Maybe you can go for a sex addiction treatment (http://edgewoodhealthnetwork.com/locations/bellwood/programs/sex-addiction/ ). A friend of mine had undergone this procedure in in Calgary and found this treatment effective. Hope you would get rid of your addiction.

 

Oh boy.. i considered to open a thread about this question, and it is already here. I am 35, and my starting point was also not internetporn, but phone sex. I escalated into heavy porn addiction, and visited hookers in between. Had a real relationship which went for 3 years, through which i was faithful. Which means i didn't visit hookers or had affairs or anything, and did not miss them, but could not my urges to PMO.

My thoughts were contrary to most of yours, the main opinion here seems to be that visiting hookers somehow is a worse addiction then porn. I saw it different and i tell you why. When i PMO'd i escalated into weirder and weirder stuff, sometimes full of shame and disgust with myself, like the sex i watched just got rougher and rougher and me not giving a shit about the feelings of the actors. Even to the point on getting off to scenes where it was obvious the actors did not enjoy themselves. Somehow sadistic. With hookers it was different, because they are human beings and i am no sadist. So i thought to keep myself from escalating, better hookers than porn. Because internet-porn is for sure the reason for escalation.

But concerning the question wether PMO or sex-addict: i don't know, but i am sure stopping to PM will help with the other issues as well.

 

Very true.