Well, I submit.. Sean wins

Hey buddy welcome! I'd recommend setting yourself a counter to keep track of when you last relapsed. It helped me a lot to publicly say "This is how far I've gone and this is how far I plan on going". You can get it by clicking on a counter of anyone else on the site (I just haven't set mine up yet). I last relapsed a few hours ago and I'm not joking when I say I will never do it again. I hope you feel the same man

Oh and good luck killing Sean (a sentence that could be taken out of context)

 

Hey. My current name is Frühlingstimme, and I have had several other personas. diromedes, itornael, etc. Just pick a new name. I find it fun.

 

What strategies are you using to combat PMO?

 

First and most important, does you wife know? For single guys, it's a pretty fair fight. Maybe they'll be able to climb out of addiction, maybe not. For married guys, it's a little more predictable. Those who tell their wives have more support and something great to live for, and they are more likely to succeed. Those who don't almost always fail. Despite your misgivings, there are many other great reasons for disclosing, which you can read in the thread attached to my signature. If you have questions or concerns not addressed in that thread, let us know and we can help you more.

Second, understand this addiction and what is really happening. Read people here on NoFap, and the articles from yourbrainonporn.com. Learn about the dopamine cycle, what makes you crave PMO. This can help you avoid it, and develop a powerful appreciation and hate for what porn does to you and your relationships. In this vein, spend a little time in the Relationships section and liste to the wives and girlfriends who are watching their relationships being shredded by the porn monster. It will help give perspective on how terrible this addiction really is.

Develop a plan, and form the resolution in your sane moments for how you will fight in your insane ones.

Start a counter, to track progress, and a journal to do the same. The more detailed you are in your journal, the more information you will have to look back on later, and potentially find triggers and patterns that make life tougher for you. Your journal is more for you than for other people.

Realize that you will probably reset a few times, and that's okay. People don't just run a marathon on a whim, nor do you they break long standing, deeply ingrained habits all at once. If you reset, the temptation is strong to roll over and say "I already looked at porn, might as well go the whole nine yards" or even, "I can't do it. I'm just a miserable being who will always be this way." Lies. A misstep on the mountain trail does not mean a free fall down the face.

Develop relationships here, set down roots, be around people who understand your struggle and can share it, and help you through.

 

When I tried to set up mine now it wasn't working, there was an error message displayed on the screen. I think the service is down right now

 

Here is a growing collection of startup strategies compiled from myself and I've added some from others on NoFap. Keep these in mind. This is by no means a be-all-end-all list of suggestions but it is a list for you to use and add to for yourself and modify to meet your needs.

1. Delete all of the P that you have from your computer and smartphone including the browser history and cookies. This will not stop you but will slow you down.
2. Identify your triggers. What are the things that you happening in your world to cause you to turn to PMO for escape and comfort! This is the most crucial step in the process.
3. Once your triggers are identified, determine healthy ways of dealing with those triggers such as exercise, running, leaving the stressful situation and going outside for air.
   
4. Go to http://yourbrainonporn.com/ to learn more about the effect PMO has on you. Do this also to educate yourself on the damage you are doing to yourself.
5. Guard your eyes. Be careful of what you allow yourself to see. No, you cannot live with your eyes closed but you can determine how long you look at something.
6. Masturbation... do not keep your hands to yourself. Unless you are bathing, changing your underwear or actually using the bathroom, your hands should be nowhere near your penis. YOU ARE BANNED FROM TOUCHING YOUR PENIS FOR RECREATION!!!
7. Your bed is limited to only the time you are sleeping. No laying in bed other than that. As soon you awake, you should get out of bed. Can't sleep, if awake for more than a few minutes, get out of bed until you are sleepy enough to go to sleep.
8. Keep doors open unless necessary. You need to be isolated as little as possible. You're less likely to M when people can see you.
9. Keep curtains and blinds open as much as possible. Similar reason as above and also allows light inside. Many time M'ing is more likely in dark places.
10. At night, keep lights on as often as possible. Similar to above, lights on may lessen your desire to fap.
11. If you are a naked sleeper or a boxer sleeper, consider sleeping in a in jockstrap, cup or briefs or compression shorts, something more constrictive so that you are less likely to feel movement while falling asleep or when awaking. They may provide a better barrier to prevent those that subconsciously reach for their penis at night or in the morning. They may also be a visual barrier for those that have morning erections too irresistible to not touch.
    
12. Begin a journal so that others can encourage you and connect with you.
13. Become active in this community. The more active you are, the less time you will spend focused on you. The less time focused solely on you, the faster time goes. There is an old saying, "a watched pot of water doesn't boil any faster", which means for this example, focusing solely on yourself and your issues won't make them go away sooner. It's OK to track progress but when spending more time doing other things that were once important to you and encouraging others, you will notice the time of your sobriety will go so much faster than if you didn't.

This a journey. Unless you began your addiction yesterday, don't expect to have complete victory by tomorrow. It takes time. We are here for you for as long as it takes.

 

Your penis is not a toy!

 

After the brain fog clears, and you can see clearly, we all have the epiphany of the lives we could have lived if we had not invited PMO to stay in our lives.