Were you still able to feel "love/happy" with people after you watch p regularly?

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Thanatos, Feb 12, 2015.

  1. Thanatos

    Thanatos Fapstronaut

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    I haven't been able to feel intense love for another human being, especially females to the extent that I used to before I became a regular user.
    I'm just curious if there is a connection or if it's just a part of getting older, but I have felt numb as shit in the past to where nothing effects me, I'm kind of in a middle ground right now where I have more love... but it's like a quarter of what I used to feel 7ish years ago.
     
  2. ruso

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    Part of it might be maturing. Part of it might be no longer escaping from any emotions through PMO, the good and bad ones. I also was pretty numb to everything, a friend would say they are sick and I'd be like "that sucks. So what did you do last week" now it's not. I care more and emotions get to me more. The same goes for loving my family more and really feeling happy when I do feel happy.
     
  3. J-Kiwin

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    I wrote this in my journal. These were my thoughts after being intimate with my wife (after three weeks of zero PMO):

    From what I know of the four "happy chemicals", it just had to be oxytocin. This is the chemical that creates intimacy, trust and builds healthy relationships (according to an article I have on the monitor next to me). In reflecting on these feelings now, it seems abundantly clear that years and years of PMO dopamine abuse had quashed the release of oxytocin into my soul.
     
  4. Limeaid

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    Yes there is extensivd research pointing to porn causing decreased feeling of love and caring towards females and female partners. Tolerance for violence against women also goes up meaning that regular porn usets report that girls "deserved" whatever violence happened to them.

    If you think about it, porn is pretty violent and degrading towards females so in order to watch it and get off to it you need to turn off any feelings of compassion or humanity.
     
  5. avle

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    In my experience, the more I watched porn regularly, the more I felt indifferent towards my boyfriend. When my addiction got worse, I felt unhappy with him. I consider myself a bisexual, so watching porn made me want to be with women. Now, I cannot even orgasm when I am with him.

    I am currently beginning to recover from my addiction. I hope you continue to recover.
     
  6. jbastoniv

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    PIV and PMO and MO is not the same hormone cocktail. With PMO and MO you get dopamine up until you O, then you get prolactin, that's what makes you not feel horny and causes your erection to go away. What's different with PIV, well, you get a huge blast of oxytocin, the bonding hormone. You get good feelings. Go PMO and P free and after awhile (I think it isn't that long) and you will start to have normal feelings and loving feelings again. You will care and want to protect women and not objectify them or think it is ok for her to be violently abuse by 5 guys slapping and humiliating her, you will be disgusted by that! You will feel sorry for her. For me it was around 21 days and this is how I started to feel pretty quickly. I almost never have any images, even after writing this, they have left me. Go full NoFap and find a women and date her, the woman, not the object. Get to know her, cuddle, hug, watch a movie, talk all night. Build a relationship and it'll flourish into a love making relationship. Good luck and stay strong.
     
  7. DarsMaul

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    at the moment i am in a 2 and half year relationship and have had an issue with P for the past 6ish years on and off. When every i would PMO while in this relationship, i could feel myself detach a little bit and wouldnt be able to love my partner as much. I would detach so much so that even she would be able to know when something had happened before i would tell her. It really does ruin relationships so all of the best of luck.
     
  8. The Ace

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    I think I could feel love or happiness, but it was a very dull or weak feeling. And I would simply fap more to compensate for that lack of happiness and love, creating an endless cycle.
     
  9. tophat888

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    Yes, I have experienced this. Thankfully, it wears off more and more as I do not expose myself to bad material\media\fantasies.
     
  10. jeffnofapp

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    Love, absolutely. Lust, nope.
     

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