What will you do if you found out your kid was into PMO?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by CTRL + DEL, Feb 22, 2019.

How will you tackle the issue?

  1. Avoid it and let the kid learn the hard way.

  2. Try to approach subtly and discuss only if they show willingness to discuss the issue.

  3. Approach boldly but discuss the matter gently. Offer help.

  4. Approach boldy, give the lil' tyke a good lecture and confiscate everything.

  5. Go all out. Session with a psychologist, completely grounded, strict regimen designed for the kid.

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  1. CTRL + DEL

    CTRL + DEL Fapstronaut

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    Everyone's comments are invited. Parents in particular.

    I feel this is a topic we most definitely need to discuss. A healthy and encouraging way to break the addiction as it formulates is important.

    Confiscation of the kid's device and keeping their bedroom door open at all times seem like obvious measures everyone will mention.

    I'm moreso looking for methods that rely more on making the child understand the gravity of the issue. Obviously, we can't sit down and expect a 14 year old to listen to a lecture on dopamine and DeltaFosB and call that "motivation".

    For the sake of argument, let's assume your kid is 13-15 when your suspicions are confirmed.

    Any clever or unique methods you can think of? Learning by experience is kinda what we want to avoid here.

    Thanks for the feedback.
     
  2. It depends on the kid. It's not a case of one size fits all.

    When I was a kid the more my parents tried to keep me from porn the more determined I was to get my hands on it. Being banned from it gave me extra motivation to look at it. I was a rebel and kind of still am.
     
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  3. MusicMakingMonk

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    As @Rio mentioned, it's not as simple.
    I would come up with my own way of explaining why pornography isn't great for you, that would suit the child in question, first and foremost.
    I wouldn't ban it or anything, I don't think that works well with teenagers, coming from my own experience anyways.
     
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  4. CTRL + DEL

    CTRL + DEL Fapstronaut

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    Yes that's why i asked.

    Conventional methods fail in such cases. If you had a kid with a similar temperament, what would be ur course of action?
     
  5. CTRL + DEL

    CTRL + DEL Fapstronaut

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    Which is? That's precisely what is being asked here. :)
     
  6. definitely not what my dad did to me, but thats how it goes, you learn from your parents mistakes so you can not repeat them and be better than they were.
     
  7. CTRL + DEL

    CTRL + DEL Fapstronaut

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    Some insight would be helpful :)
     
  8. well i would ofcourse ground them and take their electronics away for atleast 1 month and give them a good spanking depending on the age, but i would also sit them down and tell them about the nature of porn, i would tell them my story and what i went through because of it, i realize a kid wont care about what you are saying and do it anyways, but the hope is he will remember my words and if he ever does start going down a bad path because of porn, he will remember my story and hopefully he will come to me for help.
     
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  9. MLMVSS

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    To those who pick the last option (thankfully, no one yet), did that also happen to you, did you do that, or are you sitting on top of your ivory tower?
     
  10. MLMVSS

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    As for the other options, I’d personally warn about it and add a censor. Going too hard on the kid either makes them afraid of sex, or it makes them want to stray down the dangerous path of PMO even more. Obviously we shouldn’t have either.
     
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  11. u376

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    A very good question..... probability of this happening in future is lot
    I will take these measures
    • I will tell my kid about my story and my own battle.....I will tell him the side effects
    • I will switch off the wifi during night also I will insist him to share his laptop with me
    • I will wake him up early around 7-8 am.....and got him enroll in a sports club
    • He can choose any sports ......table tennis, football, even chess....any anything
    • I will tell him that if he want to be a "player" then he should stop pmoing
    • I will tell him how pmo can affect his looks
    • During weekends I will often try to spent my time with him outside
    • I will teach him how watching porn affects our brain....and he is affecting his own reward system
    • Lastly I will look for other rehab institutions.....if condition is out of control
     
  12. CTRL + DEL

    CTRL + DEL Fapstronaut

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    You will make a fantastic father.

    So long as you don't force 2 or more of these points on him, I'm sure any kid will come to understand.

    Thanks for sharing. This is exactly the kind of feedback i have been looking for.

    The off topic section is full of bullshit so I felt like asking a pertinent and pressing question instead. This forum needs some sincerity. (Just my opinion.)
     
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  13. I disagree with doing this. If I was a father (a big if right there), I wouldn't force my son into a sports club if he doesn't like sports. If he wants to read or paint or walk or cook or do something else along those lines to help him with his addiction and help him reboot, I'd allow him to do it. I think that parents should help their children if they find out about their addiction while they're at a young age, but after a certain point, they'll only be able to give them tips, advice, and guidance. You can't force a child to do something they don't want to do and you may disagree with me on this, but if they don't want to do a sports club at 7-8 am every morning because it might trigger them or give them a relapse, they shouldn't have to.
     
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  14. u376

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    Haha.... thanks man
    I will consider myself great....if I become even 5% of my father
    I think at times I will become a little hard only to show them the real side .......
    But it's a difficult road to become a father.....
    My focus right now is to become an average son
    Yeah..... sometimes questions in this section are quite repetitive
     
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  15. u376

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    I agree
    Actually my main purpose would be to keep him busy
    And it would be great if he develop interest in something else.....
    But still I will suggest him to do light yoga....
    As doing physical activities calm down urges
     
  16. This is true since staying busy would keep the mind off of such things. I just said what I did since I've heard stories of parents controlling every aspect of their child's life, from what classes they take to what activities they do to what their career is and I think that a parent should give their child flexibility when it comes to such issues as PMO.
     
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  17. Hank Pym

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    He surely wouldn't listen to the side-effects, because you already know it, the most fake enjoyable thing. I will encourage him to join creative team/ sports club and make most of the schedule busy so he get minimum lonely time.
     
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  18. Liv4ever

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    +_+ I'll make him listen to hypnosis tapes after he's asleep.. Nd probably make sure he's busy 24/7
    If u want an extreme answer
    Spycam +_+
    Who the fuq ever came up with the notion tht teenagers require privacy :p
    As nd when seperate rooms nd closed doors Took over boom..
    I'll probably get him to be with his lil siblings ;')
    Wht sick minded freak wld ever fap then?
     
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  19. CTRL + DEL

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    This is a basic human right.

    How do you think you would've reacted if your parents subject you to these restrictions?
     
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  20. I would dedicate some GOOD amount of my time to make sure hes gettin out of it . Just father and son,fighting through it together !
    Same if she was a girl too. I would probably pass it to her mother ,to have an easier time discussing and stuff ,but nonetheless, making sure its being dealt with it.

    Now ,I'm quite advanced in knowledge with computers ,phones etc so I would more than probable find out very soon if my kid is into porn, and that would allow me to quickly deal with the problem. After all, it's much easier to stop an addiction if detected early.

    Hell,not even to this day my parents have ever brought up this subject ( they had/have good faith in me I guess),and I ll be 25 soon. But I ll make sure I wont let this error happen.
     
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