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Why I masturbate

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by ih8porn, Jul 14, 2017.

  1. ih8porn

    ih8porn Fapstronaut

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    So when i first started masturbating when i was 7 it was for a pretty normal reason. I was introduced to pornography and i simply liked it. At this age i would've nerver thought it would go as far as it did. I'm very insecure about the size of my penis(Im 19yo and still virgin) even though it's average and that has led me to like some really messed up fetishes. I relapsed today and usually when i do it's because im feeling insecure about my penis or whatever. But today i relapsed because i was feeling very lonley and i was thinking of how i would never have a girlfriend and about how if the girl i liked new what i masturbate to she would just feel sorry for me and find me disgusting. Any ways i just realized that when i relapse i'm always thinking about negative things which i tend to do quite often. I feel like if in the future i do have a girlfriend and get laid the thought of who i am today would just depress me. I really dont know what im going to do i want to be normal again but it's so hard to stop i was feeling horrible earlier today and after i masturbated i felt much better. I don't know how to eliminate these negative thoughts and i have very little patience so i dont know what to do. :(
     
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  2. well unless you change now your egonna go further into that darkness. im 26. virgin. no confidence w girls. i was on a 15 day streak feeling good then i let my guard down and pmo tricked me to fapping.

    also once an addict, once into fetishes ,, that means most likely for life.

    so you gotta grab your nutsack stand up straight and man up otherwise youre in for alot of pain
     
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  3. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

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    You need an overall mind change, policy change. Decide that the only acceptable pleasure outlet is when you're with a real live woman and she does the work on you.
     
  4. @ih8porn Hello. Though we are very different in age, I can relate to you because I also started M when I was 6 or 7. It's totally unfair and absurd for a child to experience addiction at such an early age and that makes me feel like I was betrayed by my own destiny. A child's age of innocence is between 6 and 14, but I simply ruined it completely. At 14 I was irreversibly an addict, and throughout my life I've also developed fetish addiction.

    Speaking about penis size. Its very important not to masturbate. By not PMO-ing you allow your body to grow naturally and to deal with our problems. When we M, even when edging, we waste lots of energy and substances that are good for our body. Nowadays everyone knows that PMO leads to impaired growth and slower or incomplete development of the bones and muscles. Actually it affects every cell of our body - and all the organs, including the brain, liver, etc. Our body is not a machine that has cheap unimportant parts and expensive important ones. Though it doesn't seem like that, our body treats every single of its cells, organs and systems with equal importance. When you harm one member of a family, the whole family is going to suffer.

    Penis growth relies on many complex processes that take place in our body, including psychological ones. Maybe you can 'train' it like a muscle, but this may be just a tiny fraction of what our penises need in order to grow bigger. I think that, in order to bring significant changes to our bodies, we need to change our lives completely.

    One more aspect, related to the title of your post - Why I masturbate. There is no exact answer to this question, because people may masturbate from necessity, for pleasure, out of boredom, curiosity, or for some of these reasons combined. I really feel that we PMO addicts with fetishes mainly masturbate because we are deeply dissatisfied with ourselves, not because we are lonely or horny. When we PMO, we always imagine ourselves as strong physically and mentally, good-looking, in control of everything (in control of the woman we have sex with, of ourselves and of the sexual act). In the world of PMO, we are gods, blessed with precisely those qualities that we lack in real life. In real life, people like us are weak, cowardly, shy, not very good-looking, many times bullied or mocked at and considered freaks. And invisible for women. I consider this to be the main reason why it's so difficult for us to quit PMO - because if we quit PMO we go back to a world in which we are pathetic beings living a life of frustration.
     
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  5. arrow26

    arrow26 Fapstronaut

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    Nothing strange, I had a lot of girls, always had regular sex and masturbated a same time, so it is nothing unusual, just masturbate as much as you need that :)
     

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